I have just finished reading The Attraction Code by Vin DiCarlo. I wish I had read this earlier. It would have saved me months of heartache. Some of the realisations I have made recently were explained in detail in this book. For example my post on focus and intent was written based on the failures and successes with women or another post I write a while back about being OK as I am. These were covered in the same light in which I had written my posts. Only it was more detailed and concise.
I don't read or watch a lot of pickup material but if there is anything I would reccommend at the moment, it would be this book. Though I wouldn't recommend it for beginners. Having the reference experiences to link a lot of the concepts in the book is what makes this book so powerful.
Friday, January 21, 2011
Wednesday, January 19, 2011
Lady at the Tramp
On Tuesday morning I was on the train on my way to work. I wasn't feeling too well. I was having stomach pains. It might have been what I ate last night. Anyway, I'm halfway towards Glen Waverley and I thought to myself "Fuck it!" I jump off the train, call in sick and turn back home.
I spent the morning watching Risky Business with Tom Cruise, did some hypnosis, meditation and then went to sleep. I woke up early in the afternoon feeling better and go out to do a bit of daygame with a couple of guys from the Lair. Daryl, my old roommate who is leaving to go to New Zealand this Friday :( and Jonathan who I haven't seen in ages.
I managed to do a few approaches which felt pretty awkward. I sucked it up and tried to embrace it rather than beat myself up for it. Jonathan is always great to do daygame with we seem to have a great vibe when we hang out. We're able to make rejection fun. We also bump into Keilan and he joins in on the fun. I managed to do 5 approaches which was a win for me because it's been a while since I've done 5 in a session. I've taken the foot off the pedal a little bit in recent times to focus on other things.
We finish off having a few drinks at the Rooftop Bar and just chill as normal human beings. Keilan leaves early and suggests I join him at the Tramp that night. I wasn't working the next day so I agreed. I finish off drinks with Daryl and Jonathan and join Keilan at the Lair dinner. I am kinda glad I've got myself banned from the Lair because it felt somewhat toxic to be around those guys. One of the newer guys played a bit of "I know game more than you" gymnastics which gave me the shits a little bit. It made me realise how much game can really screw with my head.
After the dinner Keilan and I head to Tramp. Initially, we were knocked back but luckily Keilan knew one of the DJs and managed to get us in. We walk straight to the bar to get some drinks. While I wait in line to be served I wave to a girl looking in my direction to get her attention (this has been my opener at night these days). She smiles, says "hi" then turns away. Oh well, you can't please everyone.
I get my drink and head to the dancefloor. In my peripheral I notice I am getting a lot of people watching me. These days I've cut back a lot of my dance moves and use more of my sensual/sexual movements more recently. In a lot of places which plays a lot of house music, this generally stands out but in a very subtle way.
I move closer to the middle of the dancefloor and spot a cute blonde, Cara, with her friend watching over me. She looked over quite a few times. I look over to her, pull her in close and we start dancing. We exchange a bit of fluff talk but at the time I don't feel she is giving me the response I need so I back off a little. We dance a little side to side and I pull her in again. This is where it gets hotter and heavier. I grab her hand and spin her a few times and place her hand against my hip. We' up in each others faces as I grind my thigh against her pussy. I could feel she was really into me. They way she wrapped her hands with mine how intimate she was holding me. We lock eyes and we make out. I pull back and tell her we should go someplace quiet. I grab her hand and we head to the smoking area.
Her friend, Amber, comes along and I get Keilan to join us. I talk with the Cara while Keilan tries to talk with Amber but she starts talking to another guy. I engage with a bit of talk with Cara. She's Polish and has the sexiest accent. Just listening to it is giving me a massive boner. Were not engaging in interesting conversation but our eyes say it all. We want each other. Each word I say is really slow and seductive. The way we hold each other is as if we're a couple. She's really sweet. Amber comes in and says "she's only with you because she loves Asians". Cara is giggling like a little school girl. I say "really? So I'm just a piece of meat?" Amber says you should just be happy and go with it. "Damn! I thought it was for my personality" I said. Amber says "There's not much we can find out about you after knowing you for 5 minutes".
We head back inside and I take Cara to the Bar for a drink. I'm really enjoying being with her. I pull her in and tell her in a slow seductive voice "You know what?...I'd really love to take you home right now. I'd push you against the wall and kiss you so passionately till your knees buckle. Then I'd throw you on my bed and put my cock deep in your tight little pussy". She giggled. She says she can't leave Amber and I suggest she can come along too. Instead she gives me her number and if she can get rid of her she'll come with me.
I take Cara to the dancefloor and we join Amber and Keilan. Cara grabs Amber and they walk off for a bit. I'm on the dancefloor and the tempo picks up so I pick up my tempo with it. It's been a while since Cara and Amber left us. Alot of girls are coming over to dance with me so I join in on the fun. Though there was this one girl that really caught my eye. A gorgeous tall leggy blonde. We managed to lock eyes a few times but I couldn't get myself to approach her. So back to dancing. I keep a lookout for tall leggy blonde but by that time Cara came back so I danced and kissed her some more.
It's time to go home for me so I kiss Cara goodbye and head home. I could have been a bit more persuasive but I feel we will be meeting again.
I spent the morning watching Risky Business with Tom Cruise, did some hypnosis, meditation and then went to sleep. I woke up early in the afternoon feeling better and go out to do a bit of daygame with a couple of guys from the Lair. Daryl, my old roommate who is leaving to go to New Zealand this Friday :( and Jonathan who I haven't seen in ages.
I managed to do a few approaches which felt pretty awkward. I sucked it up and tried to embrace it rather than beat myself up for it. Jonathan is always great to do daygame with we seem to have a great vibe when we hang out. We're able to make rejection fun. We also bump into Keilan and he joins in on the fun. I managed to do 5 approaches which was a win for me because it's been a while since I've done 5 in a session. I've taken the foot off the pedal a little bit in recent times to focus on other things.
We finish off having a few drinks at the Rooftop Bar and just chill as normal human beings. Keilan leaves early and suggests I join him at the Tramp that night. I wasn't working the next day so I agreed. I finish off drinks with Daryl and Jonathan and join Keilan at the Lair dinner. I am kinda glad I've got myself banned from the Lair because it felt somewhat toxic to be around those guys. One of the newer guys played a bit of "I know game more than you" gymnastics which gave me the shits a little bit. It made me realise how much game can really screw with my head.
After the dinner Keilan and I head to Tramp. Initially, we were knocked back but luckily Keilan knew one of the DJs and managed to get us in. We walk straight to the bar to get some drinks. While I wait in line to be served I wave to a girl looking in my direction to get her attention (this has been my opener at night these days). She smiles, says "hi" then turns away. Oh well, you can't please everyone.
I get my drink and head to the dancefloor. In my peripheral I notice I am getting a lot of people watching me. These days I've cut back a lot of my dance moves and use more of my sensual/sexual movements more recently. In a lot of places which plays a lot of house music, this generally stands out but in a very subtle way.
I move closer to the middle of the dancefloor and spot a cute blonde, Cara, with her friend watching over me. She looked over quite a few times. I look over to her, pull her in close and we start dancing. We exchange a bit of fluff talk but at the time I don't feel she is giving me the response I need so I back off a little. We dance a little side to side and I pull her in again. This is where it gets hotter and heavier. I grab her hand and spin her a few times and place her hand against my hip. We' up in each others faces as I grind my thigh against her pussy. I could feel she was really into me. They way she wrapped her hands with mine how intimate she was holding me. We lock eyes and we make out. I pull back and tell her we should go someplace quiet. I grab her hand and we head to the smoking area.
Her friend, Amber, comes along and I get Keilan to join us. I talk with the Cara while Keilan tries to talk with Amber but she starts talking to another guy. I engage with a bit of talk with Cara. She's Polish and has the sexiest accent. Just listening to it is giving me a massive boner. Were not engaging in interesting conversation but our eyes say it all. We want each other. Each word I say is really slow and seductive. The way we hold each other is as if we're a couple. She's really sweet. Amber comes in and says "she's only with you because she loves Asians". Cara is giggling like a little school girl. I say "really? So I'm just a piece of meat?" Amber says you should just be happy and go with it. "Damn! I thought it was for my personality" I said. Amber says "There's not much we can find out about you after knowing you for 5 minutes".
We head back inside and I take Cara to the Bar for a drink. I'm really enjoying being with her. I pull her in and tell her in a slow seductive voice "You know what?...I'd really love to take you home right now. I'd push you against the wall and kiss you so passionately till your knees buckle. Then I'd throw you on my bed and put my cock deep in your tight little pussy". She giggled. She says she can't leave Amber and I suggest she can come along too. Instead she gives me her number and if she can get rid of her she'll come with me.
I take Cara to the dancefloor and we join Amber and Keilan. Cara grabs Amber and they walk off for a bit. I'm on the dancefloor and the tempo picks up so I pick up my tempo with it. It's been a while since Cara and Amber left us. Alot of girls are coming over to dance with me so I join in on the fun. Though there was this one girl that really caught my eye. A gorgeous tall leggy blonde. We managed to lock eyes a few times but I couldn't get myself to approach her. So back to dancing. I keep a lookout for tall leggy blonde but by that time Cara came back so I danced and kissed her some more.
It's time to go home for me so I kiss Cara goodbye and head home. I could have been a bit more persuasive but I feel we will be meeting again.
Monday, January 17, 2011
Intent and Focus
In the last couple of weeks I have taken more risk and I have been a lot more bolder than I have ever been and I am starting to reap the benefits from it when going out to meet women.
On paper I will appear that I am great with women but the reality is that it is far from the truth. While I don't doubt I have the tools to seduce beautiful women, I lack the focus required to be getting results. I thought it had a lot to do with my inner beliefs yet I can come up with heaps of examples where guy aren't technically as able as me or have beliefs which are even more convoluted or contrived as mine and yet they are getting more solid results with women than I am. I thought it may have something to do with my insecurities with my sexuality. However, I can come up with examples of guys I know who feel uncomfortable when I mention the word sex who have had sex more than I have in recent times. I can name dozens of reasons to explain why my success with women has been limited and I can point out a number of guys who have the same reasons or even worse and yet they have more sex than me.
Intent seems to be the big buzzword in the community at the moment but to me I had been expressing intent as more of a technique rather than an extension of my being. As a result the direction of my intent was scattered and it didn't seem I was getting my message across. While I have been told my intent is strong, I was not getting desired results. There are guys out there who don't show any intent in any shape or form yet they are getting results. Why is that?
I feel my breakthroughs recently come down to focus. Where is it being directed? Some may argue intent and focus are the same thing and you may be right. From my experience I feel they are different. I feel intent is associated with the behaviours, thoughts and actions exhibited in getting an outcome. Focus is associated with where my attention is directed in getting an outcome. So while my behaviours and actions exhibited are directed towards seducing women (touching, flirting, etc.) my attention isn't (make-out, sex, date, etc.).
My focus has been more along the lines of what will the woman think of me rather than what do I want? As a result my intent comes across as scattered and so has my success. While I knew this was the issue on a logical level, to experience the outcome as a result of scattered intent has made me learn to redirect my focus which serves to achieve my desired experience with women.
My level of focus with women is also a reflection on my level of focus in other areas of life. My goals don't quite align with each other and sometimes I do feel a little overwhelmed by what I've put myself into. Focus is, right now, my area of focus.
On paper I will appear that I am great with women but the reality is that it is far from the truth. While I don't doubt I have the tools to seduce beautiful women, I lack the focus required to be getting results. I thought it had a lot to do with my inner beliefs yet I can come up with heaps of examples where guy aren't technically as able as me or have beliefs which are even more convoluted or contrived as mine and yet they are getting more solid results with women than I am. I thought it may have something to do with my insecurities with my sexuality. However, I can come up with examples of guys I know who feel uncomfortable when I mention the word sex who have had sex more than I have in recent times. I can name dozens of reasons to explain why my success with women has been limited and I can point out a number of guys who have the same reasons or even worse and yet they have more sex than me.
Intent seems to be the big buzzword in the community at the moment but to me I had been expressing intent as more of a technique rather than an extension of my being. As a result the direction of my intent was scattered and it didn't seem I was getting my message across. While I have been told my intent is strong, I was not getting desired results. There are guys out there who don't show any intent in any shape or form yet they are getting results. Why is that?
I feel my breakthroughs recently come down to focus. Where is it being directed? Some may argue intent and focus are the same thing and you may be right. From my experience I feel they are different. I feel intent is associated with the behaviours, thoughts and actions exhibited in getting an outcome. Focus is associated with where my attention is directed in getting an outcome. So while my behaviours and actions exhibited are directed towards seducing women (touching, flirting, etc.) my attention isn't (make-out, sex, date, etc.).
My focus has been more along the lines of what will the woman think of me rather than what do I want? As a result my intent comes across as scattered and so has my success. While I knew this was the issue on a logical level, to experience the outcome as a result of scattered intent has made me learn to redirect my focus which serves to achieve my desired experience with women.
My level of focus with women is also a reflection on my level of focus in other areas of life. My goals don't quite align with each other and sometimes I do feel a little overwhelmed by what I've put myself into. Focus is, right now, my area of focus.
Sunday, January 9, 2011
A sign of things to come
With the events which have occurred in the past week. I feel this is my breakout year with my success with women. Here's a list of highlights:
- Made out with a married woman on New Years Day. I was at Crown Casino with a mate and we went to Tangerine. I was feeling in a pretty good state that night. I was opening a few cute girls and I was able to lock eyes with many who walked past me. I could taken things a bit further in most of the interactions and my escalations could have been a bit more calibrated.
We leave to head to the pub next door and there are only two girls on the dancefloor. My mate and I walk over to them and I dance with one of them. As I held her hand while dancing with her, I felt a ring but at the time I didn' think much of it. She was grinding on my cock so I rolled with it. After dancing with her a bit I pull her in and makeout with her. I pull away and tell her I really want to take her home right now. It's home time and the security tells us we have to leave. I try to convince my girl to come home with me and she seems interested but her friend comes in and spoils the party. Later, as we are walking home, my mate tells me she's married.
- Thursday night I went to Fusion with Isaac and made out with a cute blonde. I knew from the moment I saw her she was keen to fuck. I was on the dancefloor with Isaac and we see the blonde and her friend start dancing next to use. I was unsure whether to approach or not so I kept dancing. We watch as a guy tries to pick the friend up and this leaves the blonde on her own. I grab her attention, take her hand, spin her and pull her in. She didn't really like the spin and told me not to do it again. She wasn't reciprocating any of my advances. We engaged in a bit of small talk which was going nowhere.
Doubting whether she was keen or not I grabbed her attention took her hand and pulled her in. She told me she had to go home. I told her she is not leaving without my number. We exchange numbers and we makeout on the dancefloor. By that time her dad had to pick her up...grrr. I suggested an afterparty at my place but no joy. Seeing that we know nothing about each other and no connection whatsoever I can only push for my cock in her pussy. She's been responding to my texts so good times ahead :)
- Made out with an older woman last night. I went to Alumbra. Never have I been to a bar where so many girls have locked eyes with me. Approaching was easy and smooth for me. I was on the dancefloor dancing a lot more sensual than I normally do (I'm a shuffler. I don't know if you could make the shuffle sensual). I lock eyes with her and pull her in. No words were said to each other. Dancing together produced a strong undercurrent of sex in the air. We were in each others faces I could feel the warm air from her panting as we were holding each other. It was like sex on the dancefloor. Feeling like it was on I pushed her against the wall and tried to kiss her but she refused.
She was still OK with me dancing with her. I'd pull her in again and try to kiss her again but she said she felt uncomfortable with her kissing me in front of her friends so I suggested we go outside. She refuses but still wants me to dance with her. Her friends leave us alone on the dancefloor. I tell her that her friends are gone and go for the kiss again but still she resists.
After a bit more of bumping and grinding. She holds me close and gives me a peck on the lips. She tells me it's too hot here and suggests we go outside. We're outside and we talk about what we do and then we get into a bit of a deep talk and we talk a bit about our views of reality.
Home time comes and I suggest we go back to my place. She refuses and goes on about her past and talks about how sex has impacted on her negatively in the past. I explained my views on sex and told her how I feel women are wrongly judged and made to feel guilty for wanting to have sex. After a bit of reasoning I felt I couldn't take it any further. Just as she was about to leave we exchange phone numbers and agree to meet soon. She kisses me goodbye.
I have been more aggressive and bold this week than I have been in my entire time learning pick-up. I find my progress has shot up exponentially. I credit this to the time I have spent doing a lot of inner game work. While I am not where I want to be yet. I feel my continued work will pay off. 2011 is my year.
- Made out with a married woman on New Years Day. I was at Crown Casino with a mate and we went to Tangerine. I was feeling in a pretty good state that night. I was opening a few cute girls and I was able to lock eyes with many who walked past me. I could taken things a bit further in most of the interactions and my escalations could have been a bit more calibrated.
We leave to head to the pub next door and there are only two girls on the dancefloor. My mate and I walk over to them and I dance with one of them. As I held her hand while dancing with her, I felt a ring but at the time I didn' think much of it. She was grinding on my cock so I rolled with it. After dancing with her a bit I pull her in and makeout with her. I pull away and tell her I really want to take her home right now. It's home time and the security tells us we have to leave. I try to convince my girl to come home with me and she seems interested but her friend comes in and spoils the party. Later, as we are walking home, my mate tells me she's married.
- Thursday night I went to Fusion with Isaac and made out with a cute blonde. I knew from the moment I saw her she was keen to fuck. I was on the dancefloor with Isaac and we see the blonde and her friend start dancing next to use. I was unsure whether to approach or not so I kept dancing. We watch as a guy tries to pick the friend up and this leaves the blonde on her own. I grab her attention, take her hand, spin her and pull her in. She didn't really like the spin and told me not to do it again. She wasn't reciprocating any of my advances. We engaged in a bit of small talk which was going nowhere.
Doubting whether she was keen or not I grabbed her attention took her hand and pulled her in. She told me she had to go home. I told her she is not leaving without my number. We exchange numbers and we makeout on the dancefloor. By that time her dad had to pick her up...grrr. I suggested an afterparty at my place but no joy. Seeing that we know nothing about each other and no connection whatsoever I can only push for my cock in her pussy. She's been responding to my texts so good times ahead :)
- Made out with an older woman last night. I went to Alumbra. Never have I been to a bar where so many girls have locked eyes with me. Approaching was easy and smooth for me. I was on the dancefloor dancing a lot more sensual than I normally do (I'm a shuffler. I don't know if you could make the shuffle sensual). I lock eyes with her and pull her in. No words were said to each other. Dancing together produced a strong undercurrent of sex in the air. We were in each others faces I could feel the warm air from her panting as we were holding each other. It was like sex on the dancefloor. Feeling like it was on I pushed her against the wall and tried to kiss her but she refused.
She was still OK with me dancing with her. I'd pull her in again and try to kiss her again but she said she felt uncomfortable with her kissing me in front of her friends so I suggested we go outside. She refuses but still wants me to dance with her. Her friends leave us alone on the dancefloor. I tell her that her friends are gone and go for the kiss again but still she resists.
After a bit more of bumping and grinding. She holds me close and gives me a peck on the lips. She tells me it's too hot here and suggests we go outside. We're outside and we talk about what we do and then we get into a bit of a deep talk and we talk a bit about our views of reality.
Home time comes and I suggest we go back to my place. She refuses and goes on about her past and talks about how sex has impacted on her negatively in the past. I explained my views on sex and told her how I feel women are wrongly judged and made to feel guilty for wanting to have sex. After a bit of reasoning I felt I couldn't take it any further. Just as she was about to leave we exchange phone numbers and agree to meet soon. She kisses me goodbye.
I have been more aggressive and bold this week than I have been in my entire time learning pick-up. I find my progress has shot up exponentially. I credit this to the time I have spent doing a lot of inner game work. While I am not where I want to be yet. I feel my continued work will pay off. 2011 is my year.
Monday, January 3, 2011
2011 - A new year, a new blog
Being a new year I have shifted my focus somewhat and hence a new blog. I'm calling it the Get Busy Now! blog. My focus this year is more geared towards creating my dream lifestyle rather than just picking up girls. I will still keep this blog to document my success with women.
I have a desire to start an online business and I feel this new blog ties in well with my business and can be solid vehicle to making money.
You can access the Get Busy Now! blog at http://getbusynow.wordpress.com
This blog is more geared towards goal setting and taking action.
I have a desire to start an online business and I feel this new blog ties in well with my business and can be solid vehicle to making money.
You can access the Get Busy Now! blog at http://getbusynow.wordpress.com
This blog is more geared towards goal setting and taking action.
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