23/08/2010
40 - Action step towards my goal - Joined the gym
24/08/2010
40 - Action step towards my goal - Journaled about my work situation
25/08/2010
40 - Action step towards my goal - Daygame
26/08/2010
40 - Action step towards my goal - Went to the gym
40 - Action step towards my goal - Daygame
27/08/2010
40 - Action step towards my goal - Went to the gym
28/08/2010
40 - Action step towards my goal - Went to the gym
40 - Action step towards my goal - Nightgame
40 - Action step towards my goal - Conversation workshop
29/08/2010
40 - Action step towards my goal - Conversation workshop
Tuesday, August 24, 2010
Work
I'm working nightshift this week so with the amount of downtime I have, I figure I catch up on my journaling and write about my thoughts. The last few months work has really been a drainer on me. I dread everyday I have to wake up and goto work. I am no longer challenged, I work in an environment where just about everyone here is miserable, I have to deal with offshore clients in India who give you the run around. I have been boxed into a role where I have created an identity which doesn't allow me to grow. This person is wimpy, submissive and takes alot of shit. I have grown as a person and I fear judgement if people were to see that person.
I feel my physiology change as I walk into my office. My voice becomes soft. I become nervous. My body language is rigid. I don't really socialise with anyone. I know this person is not me and it's killing me on the inside because I feel I can achieve alot more. Hence, why I am looking to change jobs.
In recent times I have taken a step back in applying for jobs as my department is possibly getting outsourced to another company. I want to see what comes out of it. It appears should it go ahead I will either keep my job with higher pay or get a payout consisting of three months pay. I feel getting outsourced is a win-win for me. I'll either work for a company with more opportunities to grow or I'll get a massive payout which will help wipeout my debts and start fresh elsewhere.
I have been reading a book Matt recommended to me called Power by MIchael Korda. I'm only a couple chapters into it but it has allowed me to recognise areas that have put me into the role I have boxed myself into. It has also allowed me to recognise why some people within my department have moved up quicker than I have. As a result I've made a couple of minor changes which I feel will make a big difference. One is where I sit in the office. I have observed where the high achievers at my level sit. They sit in a position where they are facing the managers. I have recently changed seats to position myself the same way they do. So far I feel it has made a difference. I felt where I was sitting before I was loaded alot of high impact work on me. This exposed me to alot of risk while others were sitting on their ass. I was more prone to making mistakes. When handling alot of risk it places alot of stress on me. This by no means is me slacking off. I feel I still have the same workload but I feel I am selective in the amount of risk I handle.
Also I feel as I was facing away from my managers I felt that they were always breathing down my neck especially during high impact tasks. I feel I sit in a position where managers have a better visibility of the problems I handle so I don't have to handle a shitload of questions and just focus on getting shit done. I hate having overheads on the simplest tasks. I just want to get things done. Recently we have been given more overheads which really piss me off. I feel that they are put in place to cover someone's arse. It's got to the point where it takes more time to deal with overheads than it is to actually get shit done. I have let it be known to my managers how I feel about them. My exact words were "this shit is retarded". I have also refused to deal with these overheads as they really are retarded. I feel you can't argue with me if I'm getting things done.
There is this one guy I've observed. He's moved up pretty quickly. I feel this is because he has created some kind of personal branding for himself within my work. When he first started he would dress in a suit and tie all the time. Even when working nightshift where everyone pretty much dresses in trackies. He copped abit of ridicule from it but it added abit of an edge on top of the fact that he is good at what he does. I may also help that he is the son in law of one of my senior managers but I feel he has moved up quick in spite of that.
I find that I tend to dress too generically at work in comparison to how I dress when I am in public, going out, etc. I felt for a long time I needed to separate my work wardrobe from my wardrobe when I am away from work. I have decided to start adding a few things to the way I dress at work to create abit of an identity. Rather than wearing trackies to work, I am starting to dress the way I would for daygame. Casual but with a touch of class.
So while I am waiting to see what happens with my work situation, I figure I can use this time to try a few things to change the perception people have of me at work. I am hoping to create a positive image which I hope to transfer to my new job.
I feel my physiology change as I walk into my office. My voice becomes soft. I become nervous. My body language is rigid. I don't really socialise with anyone. I know this person is not me and it's killing me on the inside because I feel I can achieve alot more. Hence, why I am looking to change jobs.
In recent times I have taken a step back in applying for jobs as my department is possibly getting outsourced to another company. I want to see what comes out of it. It appears should it go ahead I will either keep my job with higher pay or get a payout consisting of three months pay. I feel getting outsourced is a win-win for me. I'll either work for a company with more opportunities to grow or I'll get a massive payout which will help wipeout my debts and start fresh elsewhere.
I have been reading a book Matt recommended to me called Power by MIchael Korda. I'm only a couple chapters into it but it has allowed me to recognise areas that have put me into the role I have boxed myself into. It has also allowed me to recognise why some people within my department have moved up quicker than I have. As a result I've made a couple of minor changes which I feel will make a big difference. One is where I sit in the office. I have observed where the high achievers at my level sit. They sit in a position where they are facing the managers. I have recently changed seats to position myself the same way they do. So far I feel it has made a difference. I felt where I was sitting before I was loaded alot of high impact work on me. This exposed me to alot of risk while others were sitting on their ass. I was more prone to making mistakes. When handling alot of risk it places alot of stress on me. This by no means is me slacking off. I feel I still have the same workload but I feel I am selective in the amount of risk I handle.
Also I feel as I was facing away from my managers I felt that they were always breathing down my neck especially during high impact tasks. I feel I sit in a position where managers have a better visibility of the problems I handle so I don't have to handle a shitload of questions and just focus on getting shit done. I hate having overheads on the simplest tasks. I just want to get things done. Recently we have been given more overheads which really piss me off. I feel that they are put in place to cover someone's arse. It's got to the point where it takes more time to deal with overheads than it is to actually get shit done. I have let it be known to my managers how I feel about them. My exact words were "this shit is retarded". I have also refused to deal with these overheads as they really are retarded. I feel you can't argue with me if I'm getting things done.
There is this one guy I've observed. He's moved up pretty quickly. I feel this is because he has created some kind of personal branding for himself within my work. When he first started he would dress in a suit and tie all the time. Even when working nightshift where everyone pretty much dresses in trackies. He copped abit of ridicule from it but it added abit of an edge on top of the fact that he is good at what he does. I may also help that he is the son in law of one of my senior managers but I feel he has moved up quick in spite of that.
I find that I tend to dress too generically at work in comparison to how I dress when I am in public, going out, etc. I felt for a long time I needed to separate my work wardrobe from my wardrobe when I am away from work. I have decided to start adding a few things to the way I dress at work to create abit of an identity. Rather than wearing trackies to work, I am starting to dress the way I would for daygame. Casual but with a touch of class.
So while I am waiting to see what happens with my work situation, I figure I can use this time to try a few things to change the perception people have of me at work. I am hoping to create a positive image which I hope to transfer to my new job.
Monday, August 23, 2010
My progress...
I've been doing abit more night game than I normally would recently (probably as I now live in the city). When I first got into the community I was heavily into night game but I used canned openers to get me in set. This worked well to get me into group interactions but I never really got anywhere. As a result of becoming more of a daygame convert and doing different workshops with various companies I have weeded out alot of lines and routines out of my interactions. I have become alot more direct and have been honest about my intent. I feel most women now flake on me only because I failed to show any kind of intent on the initial interaction.
However, I am struggling to transfer this change into group interactions, particularly at night. I don't really do cold approaches at night. On the plus side, I find I am getting more approach invitations and women are approaching me. I have been working alot on my body language and sub-communications alot over the last few months and I feel the approach invites and women approaching me is a direct result of that. I have been working on my posture and being more relaxed when I am out. I am slower with my movements and have reduced alot of nervous ticks.
Also as a result of moving away from my parents I feel it has allowed me to be abit more agressive and more leading when I am with women. I am pulling the trigger more often. I am picking out the sluts in the venue and approaching without fail. I am looking for opportunities to take girls home.
For example, I was at Spice Market a couple of weeks ago and I locked eyes with a couple of blondes. The cuter (B1) of the two wasn't interested in me so I went for the other one (B2). My mate kept B1 occupied while I was dancing with B2. We didn't say much but it got really physical, really fast. There was abit of intimate hand holding. Our eyes locked together and our lips close to touching I knew it was on. We ended up making out on the dancefloor and I isolated her at the bar had a drink and sat down with her. Things were getting quite heated so I said "let's go somewhere quiet".
Her: I have to leave in an hour.
Me: Cool. My place is only 5 minutes away.
Her: I can't leave without my friend.
Me: She can come too.
I couldn't get her to leave with me so I got her number. She is yet to get back to me. She knows we'll end up fucking if she does :) I didn't take her home but I don't think I would have taken a chance if I was still living with my parents. I feel living with parents kind of puts my game in limbo. I want to have outrageous sex with sexy ladies but then I know in the back of my head I have no place to fuck her. So I go in hard and then I back off which is seriously retarded.
There were other moments that night where I felt I could have made something happen. I left Spice Market and returned later in the night. As I'm walking in I grab the attention with an incredibly sexy brunette. Red heels, short black dress and she was drunk. I was getting physical with her. We were bumping and grinding. I felt I could make a move on her but her fat friend pull her off me :(
At the moment I am still struggling to show intent and be congruent with it consistently. Being sexual and really owning it. I have experienced amazing sexual states in patches in the last few months but I desire to have it more often. Nights where I have seen glimpses of awesomeness have been when I am in this state.
On the plus side I can feel alot of internal change and I feel I am beginning to see some results materialise as a result of it. I feel I am starting to come full circle. When I first joined the community I had next to zero social skills, I felt the need add techniques and tactics to be successful with women. I have come to the point now where I am starting to strip away alot of shit I no longer need. I am doing alot less now when I am interacting with women but with much stronger results. I am almost going back to the guy I was twelve months ago yet I am more accepting of that person now. I have come to the realisation that me a year ago was an attractive guy. He just didn't see it. I am in the process of becoming the guy I was a year ago. Just a more polished version and more accepting of himself. I wouldn't have realised that if I hadn't gone on this path. I had to get into those long conversations to end up with nothing, I had to creep girls out, I had to have girls tell me to fuck off and I will continue to let that happen. It's all part of the process.
I am by no means anywhere close to where I want to be in terms of success with women or with life but I feel there is hope for the future whereas a year ago I didn't know whether there was something to be looking forward to in the future.
However, I am struggling to transfer this change into group interactions, particularly at night. I don't really do cold approaches at night. On the plus side, I find I am getting more approach invitations and women are approaching me. I have been working alot on my body language and sub-communications alot over the last few months and I feel the approach invites and women approaching me is a direct result of that. I have been working on my posture and being more relaxed when I am out. I am slower with my movements and have reduced alot of nervous ticks.
Also as a result of moving away from my parents I feel it has allowed me to be abit more agressive and more leading when I am with women. I am pulling the trigger more often. I am picking out the sluts in the venue and approaching without fail. I am looking for opportunities to take girls home.
For example, I was at Spice Market a couple of weeks ago and I locked eyes with a couple of blondes. The cuter (B1) of the two wasn't interested in me so I went for the other one (B2). My mate kept B1 occupied while I was dancing with B2. We didn't say much but it got really physical, really fast. There was abit of intimate hand holding. Our eyes locked together and our lips close to touching I knew it was on. We ended up making out on the dancefloor and I isolated her at the bar had a drink and sat down with her. Things were getting quite heated so I said "let's go somewhere quiet".
Her: I have to leave in an hour.
Me: Cool. My place is only 5 minutes away.
Her: I can't leave without my friend.
Me: She can come too.
I couldn't get her to leave with me so I got her number. She is yet to get back to me. She knows we'll end up fucking if she does :) I didn't take her home but I don't think I would have taken a chance if I was still living with my parents. I feel living with parents kind of puts my game in limbo. I want to have outrageous sex with sexy ladies but then I know in the back of my head I have no place to fuck her. So I go in hard and then I back off which is seriously retarded.
There were other moments that night where I felt I could have made something happen. I left Spice Market and returned later in the night. As I'm walking in I grab the attention with an incredibly sexy brunette. Red heels, short black dress and she was drunk. I was getting physical with her. We were bumping and grinding. I felt I could make a move on her but her fat friend pull her off me :(
At the moment I am still struggling to show intent and be congruent with it consistently. Being sexual and really owning it. I have experienced amazing sexual states in patches in the last few months but I desire to have it more often. Nights where I have seen glimpses of awesomeness have been when I am in this state.
On the plus side I can feel alot of internal change and I feel I am beginning to see some results materialise as a result of it. I feel I am starting to come full circle. When I first joined the community I had next to zero social skills, I felt the need add techniques and tactics to be successful with women. I have come to the point now where I am starting to strip away alot of shit I no longer need. I am doing alot less now when I am interacting with women but with much stronger results. I am almost going back to the guy I was twelve months ago yet I am more accepting of that person now. I have come to the realisation that me a year ago was an attractive guy. He just didn't see it. I am in the process of becoming the guy I was a year ago. Just a more polished version and more accepting of himself. I wouldn't have realised that if I hadn't gone on this path. I had to get into those long conversations to end up with nothing, I had to creep girls out, I had to have girls tell me to fuck off and I will continue to let that happen. It's all part of the process.
I am by no means anywhere close to where I want to be in terms of success with women or with life but I feel there is hope for the future whereas a year ago I didn't know whether there was something to be looking forward to in the future.
Wednesday, August 18, 2010
Sleep
1.What is a good night’s sleep?
To me a good night's sleep is when I wake up knowing it was uninterupted and I feel genuinely fresh. There is this all round feeling of tenderness. I can't remember the last time I had this feeling. I'd do anything to experience it again.
2.Is the quality of sleep more important than the quantity of sleep?
I feel quality of sleep is more important. I suffer from sleep appnea and I struggle to get enough deep sleep. It leaves me tired, grumpy and depressed sometimes. There are days where I don't know if I am asleep or awake.
3.Is it important to get to bed at the same time every night?
Not necessarily. I normally only need one night of quality sleep and I am back to normal.
4.Is it important to get out of bed at the same time every morning?
Not necessarily. I normally only need one night of quality sleep and I am back to normal.
5.What things are essential for a good night’s sleep?
Uninterupted, quiet household, minimal lighting, few distractions in the room.
6.What is the best environment for sleep?
Quiet household, minimal light, cool room, very few distractions.
7.How important is your bedroom for sleep?
I have setup my bedroom in a way so that the only time I enter it is usually when I fall asleep. It's almost like I'm training my brain to send my body to sleep when I jump into bed.
8.Does your bed or bedding influence the way you sleep?
I prefer a hard matress for my posture and breathing when I sleep. The current bed I have at the moment is quite soft. I am looking to get a new one soon.
9.How important is the level of light in your bedroom?
It's almost impossible to sleep with light on. I have to have all lights switched off and that includes the computer and monitor in my room.
10.Should you be sleeping in a warm or cool room?
Cool room. Heat rushes keep me awake at night.
11.Does humidity make a difference to your sleep?
I am probably most likely to fall asleep in a dry environment.
12.What can you do if you are easily awakened by noise while sleeping?
I use meditation audio to block out noise.
13.Should you have a clock in your bedroom?
No
14.Should you have pets in your bedroom?
I don't have any so it's a non-issue.
15.How do you establish a routine that promotes sleep?
I'd say no as I am a shift worker.
16.What are the best ways to relax before going to bed?
Reading. Sitting in silence. Meditation.
17.How can you stop your mind racing while you are trying to sleep?
If something has to be done, do it. Or write it down as a reminder.
18.Is it alright to nap during the day?
Yes. It energises me and allows me to be more productive.
19.Does regular exercise promote a good night’s sleep?
Yes and I probably should do it more.
20.Will a bath before bedtime help you sleep better?
A hot shower will.
21.How close to bedtime can you eat?
About an hour or two.
22.How does drinking water before bedtime influence your sleep?
I can't drink too much otherwise I can sleep. I wake up to go to the toilet a number of times.
23.What natural preparations can help you sleep?
Meditation audio.
24.Why can caffeine make sleeping difficult?
It doesn't really affect me that much.
25.Does mood effect the quality of sleep?
26.What happens to memory as we fall asleep?
27.Is sleep important for memory?
28.Complete the Epworth Sleepiness Scale
29.What is snoring?
30.What can you do about snoring?
31.How does low oxygen affect the body?
32.How does depression effect sleep?
33.How are sleep disturbances treated in people with mood disorders?
34.How do anxiety disorders affect sleep?
35.What can you do to improve your sleep?
Exercise
36.Are you getting enough sleep?
In the past probably not though in recent times the quality of sleep is getting much better. Since I have moved out, I find that I am getting more uninterrupted sleep. There are nights where I don't get much sleep at all and yet I can still survive the day without falling asleep at my desk at work.
37.Is your lifestyle affecting your sleep?
Being a shift worker it's impossible to say it doesn't. I have a more active social life now than I've ever had before and it's making it hard for me to get some decent sleep on some nights.
To me a good night's sleep is when I wake up knowing it was uninterupted and I feel genuinely fresh. There is this all round feeling of tenderness. I can't remember the last time I had this feeling. I'd do anything to experience it again.
2.Is the quality of sleep more important than the quantity of sleep?
I feel quality of sleep is more important. I suffer from sleep appnea and I struggle to get enough deep sleep. It leaves me tired, grumpy and depressed sometimes. There are days where I don't know if I am asleep or awake.
3.Is it important to get to bed at the same time every night?
Not necessarily. I normally only need one night of quality sleep and I am back to normal.
4.Is it important to get out of bed at the same time every morning?
Not necessarily. I normally only need one night of quality sleep and I am back to normal.
5.What things are essential for a good night’s sleep?
Uninterupted, quiet household, minimal lighting, few distractions in the room.
6.What is the best environment for sleep?
Quiet household, minimal light, cool room, very few distractions.
7.How important is your bedroom for sleep?
I have setup my bedroom in a way so that the only time I enter it is usually when I fall asleep. It's almost like I'm training my brain to send my body to sleep when I jump into bed.
8.Does your bed or bedding influence the way you sleep?
I prefer a hard matress for my posture and breathing when I sleep. The current bed I have at the moment is quite soft. I am looking to get a new one soon.
9.How important is the level of light in your bedroom?
It's almost impossible to sleep with light on. I have to have all lights switched off and that includes the computer and monitor in my room.
10.Should you be sleeping in a warm or cool room?
Cool room. Heat rushes keep me awake at night.
11.Does humidity make a difference to your sleep?
I am probably most likely to fall asleep in a dry environment.
12.What can you do if you are easily awakened by noise while sleeping?
I use meditation audio to block out noise.
13.Should you have a clock in your bedroom?
No
14.Should you have pets in your bedroom?
I don't have any so it's a non-issue.
15.How do you establish a routine that promotes sleep?
I'd say no as I am a shift worker.
16.What are the best ways to relax before going to bed?
Reading. Sitting in silence. Meditation.
17.How can you stop your mind racing while you are trying to sleep?
If something has to be done, do it. Or write it down as a reminder.
18.Is it alright to nap during the day?
Yes. It energises me and allows me to be more productive.
19.Does regular exercise promote a good night’s sleep?
Yes and I probably should do it more.
20.Will a bath before bedtime help you sleep better?
A hot shower will.
21.How close to bedtime can you eat?
About an hour or two.
22.How does drinking water before bedtime influence your sleep?
I can't drink too much otherwise I can sleep. I wake up to go to the toilet a number of times.
23.What natural preparations can help you sleep?
Meditation audio.
24.Why can caffeine make sleeping difficult?
It doesn't really affect me that much.
25.Does mood effect the quality of sleep?
26.What happens to memory as we fall asleep?
27.Is sleep important for memory?
28.Complete the Epworth Sleepiness Scale
29.What is snoring?
30.What can you do about snoring?
31.How does low oxygen affect the body?
32.How does depression effect sleep?
33.How are sleep disturbances treated in people with mood disorders?
34.How do anxiety disorders affect sleep?
35.What can you do to improve your sleep?
Exercise
36.Are you getting enough sleep?
In the past probably not though in recent times the quality of sleep is getting much better. Since I have moved out, I find that I am getting more uninterrupted sleep. There are nights where I don't get much sleep at all and yet I can still survive the day without falling asleep at my desk at work.
37.Is your lifestyle affecting your sleep?
Being a shift worker it's impossible to say it doesn't. I have a more active social life now than I've ever had before and it's making it hard for me to get some decent sleep on some nights.
Infiltrating new social circles and meeting more girls
This is something quite new to me. My social circle in the past has been created through circumstance. They were neighbours or people I went to school with. By nature I am quiet and withdrawn so it has never been natural for me to build a social circle from scratch. As a result of my circumstances I feel I have built a social circle surrounded by the wrong people. People who sabotage themselves and each other. People who don't inspire more out of myself. People who only have their best interests at heart. On top of that I had a social circle which didn't attract female friends.
My social circle consisted of guys who were disrespectful to women. This played a major incongruency when I met women. They would meet this cool guy only to find out that I was friends with jerks trying to hit on them. In seeing me as part of this kind of social group I felt women were labelling me as one of these guys even though I wasn't.
I've always known this yet I have this fear of being lonely. A desire to be accepted even if it meant being around the wrong people. I now realise this is damaging to me and ove the past year I have been working on changing that. The Melbourne Lair and All Stars have been great in finding people who want to be better with women, with their careers, social circle and in life. Through these alone I have met some great guys who inspired me to get more out of myself and I'll continue to do so.
It's funny though, I came into the community wanting to meet more girls and as a result I find myself meeting more guys. Don't get me wrong, you guys are awesome but there is something wrong if your intention is to meet more girls only to find you're meeting more guys.
In saying this I have made a goal to infiltrate new social circles. I am documenting my own actions designed to build my social circle. My main areas of focus are models or women in fashion, corporate glamours and party girls (girls in the trance scene in particular).
In this post I'll start of with models and girls in fashion as in the past week I have had a flurry of ideas on how I would build a social circle consisting of these types of women and the idea of having sexy, tall and leggy blondes excites me. Plus I am also into fashion and I love talking about image and how people perceive you.
Image and style blog
I am currently working on starting an image and style blog and making it available to fashion forums such as Vogue to gain feedback. As well as gaining feedback I seek to eventually offer fashion advice to others as I develop more of a presence within the community as a way of giving value back. They also have regular meetups so it will be a great opportunity to meet some sexy ladies. It also doesn't come across as "he's just here to meet girls". Plus I feel I am coming across as genuine as I really do love fashion. One concern when I thought about building social circles was "how would I add value to these women?" I think it's an important question because they need a reason to hang out with you. I feel this will be a major vehicle in building my social circle.
Inviting girls I meet to fashion shows
Spring fashion week is coming up and there are plenty of free fashion shows on during the week. I'd be gay not to jump on this! I can invite girls I meet during daygame or when I go out. I can invite all the girls on my facebook. I've already invited a few girls to come along with me. They don't necessarily have to like me. The show alone is enough to get their interest and my foot in the door. All I can say is hot girls like looking at other hot girls!
Organising events
In researching organising on-ground marquees for the spring racing carnival I thought to myself "how bout a charity event involving hot girls?" I can find out the cost of having the on-ground marquee with catering and then charge something on top with the proceeds going to charity. Women love dressing up and they love the idea of giving back (take it anyway you like :D). It also shows women that I am a man of value, I am a cool guy and I give value to others.
People I already know
I already know a few girls who are in the fashion industry, retail or studying design. I feel I can enhance the connection I have with them. On top of that I know that they know other incredibly hot girls who are also in the industry. I can invite them to some of the events I have listed above.
I love the idea of surrounding myself with beautiful women. I have dated a couple of models recently so I feel I have something to offer them. In the past week a flurry of ideas have come to my head and it has inspired me to take the actions listed above. I look forward to writing more about my progress.
My social circle consisted of guys who were disrespectful to women. This played a major incongruency when I met women. They would meet this cool guy only to find out that I was friends with jerks trying to hit on them. In seeing me as part of this kind of social group I felt women were labelling me as one of these guys even though I wasn't.
I've always known this yet I have this fear of being lonely. A desire to be accepted even if it meant being around the wrong people. I now realise this is damaging to me and ove the past year I have been working on changing that. The Melbourne Lair and All Stars have been great in finding people who want to be better with women, with their careers, social circle and in life. Through these alone I have met some great guys who inspired me to get more out of myself and I'll continue to do so.
It's funny though, I came into the community wanting to meet more girls and as a result I find myself meeting more guys. Don't get me wrong, you guys are awesome but there is something wrong if your intention is to meet more girls only to find you're meeting more guys.
In saying this I have made a goal to infiltrate new social circles. I am documenting my own actions designed to build my social circle. My main areas of focus are models or women in fashion, corporate glamours and party girls (girls in the trance scene in particular).
In this post I'll start of with models and girls in fashion as in the past week I have had a flurry of ideas on how I would build a social circle consisting of these types of women and the idea of having sexy, tall and leggy blondes excites me. Plus I am also into fashion and I love talking about image and how people perceive you.
Image and style blog
I am currently working on starting an image and style blog and making it available to fashion forums such as Vogue to gain feedback. As well as gaining feedback I seek to eventually offer fashion advice to others as I develop more of a presence within the community as a way of giving value back. They also have regular meetups so it will be a great opportunity to meet some sexy ladies. It also doesn't come across as "he's just here to meet girls". Plus I feel I am coming across as genuine as I really do love fashion. One concern when I thought about building social circles was "how would I add value to these women?" I think it's an important question because they need a reason to hang out with you. I feel this will be a major vehicle in building my social circle.
Inviting girls I meet to fashion shows
Spring fashion week is coming up and there are plenty of free fashion shows on during the week. I'd be gay not to jump on this! I can invite girls I meet during daygame or when I go out. I can invite all the girls on my facebook. I've already invited a few girls to come along with me. They don't necessarily have to like me. The show alone is enough to get their interest and my foot in the door. All I can say is hot girls like looking at other hot girls!
Organising events
In researching organising on-ground marquees for the spring racing carnival I thought to myself "how bout a charity event involving hot girls?" I can find out the cost of having the on-ground marquee with catering and then charge something on top with the proceeds going to charity. Women love dressing up and they love the idea of giving back (take it anyway you like :D). It also shows women that I am a man of value, I am a cool guy and I give value to others.
People I already know
I already know a few girls who are in the fashion industry, retail or studying design. I feel I can enhance the connection I have with them. On top of that I know that they know other incredibly hot girls who are also in the industry. I can invite them to some of the events I have listed above.
I love the idea of surrounding myself with beautiful women. I have dated a couple of models recently so I feel I have something to offer them. In the past week a flurry of ideas have come to my head and it has inspired me to take the actions listed above. I look forward to writing more about my progress.
Tuesday, August 17, 2010
Image and Style
Image and style to me has become an outlet of self-expression. It plays a major role in projecting an image that is being communicated to the external world. Internally I have undergone a major transformation in terms of my confidence, self-esteem, the ability to connect with others, inspire and influence others... In essence, becoming a man with a purpose and direction.
In becoming a better man, I feel like the image I project to the outside world does not reflect my constant and continuous evolution. I feel sometimes people don't see me for who I really am. There are, sometimes, incongruencies with the way I dress and the person I really am. I see image as an external gateway into who I really am on the inside.
I have always been known to dress well and quite often people will compliment me on the way that I present myself. Here I am looking to breakdown my style into principles and use it as a vehicle to not only help me enhance my image and style but to eventually help others in imporving their personal style.
In becoming a better man, I feel like the image I project to the outside world does not reflect my constant and continuous evolution. I feel sometimes people don't see me for who I really am. There are, sometimes, incongruencies with the way I dress and the person I really am. I see image as an external gateway into who I really am on the inside.
I have always been known to dress well and quite often people will compliment me on the way that I present myself. Here I am looking to breakdown my style into principles and use it as a vehicle to not only help me enhance my image and style but to eventually help others in imporving their personal style.
Sunday, August 15, 2010
5 Things I am greatful for 16/08/2010
1. Melbourne. I am very fortunate to be living in a country which allows me the freedom that I have.
2. Faster internet. For cutting down my downtime.
3. Kathryn. Someone who allows me to be open and honest about myself with no fear or guilt.
4. Food. I haven't had breakfast yet but I am about to.
5. My sexuality. I've had glimpses of who I can be. I can only imagine what I am capable of.
2. Faster internet. For cutting down my downtime.
3. Kathryn. Someone who allows me to be open and honest about myself with no fear or guilt.
4. Food. I haven't had breakfast yet but I am about to.
5. My sexuality. I've had glimpses of who I can be. I can only imagine what I am capable of.
Thursday, August 12, 2010
5 Things I am greatful for 13/08/2010
1. Google Calendar. Makes setting up alerts on my phone so much easier.
2. Google documents. Allows me to monitor personal documents anywhere, anytime.
3. My ever improving social skills. I can see how powerful they can be in creating the dream lifestyle.
4. Women. They are a source of inspiration for me.
5. All Stars. People around me are so inspiring.
2. Google documents. Allows me to monitor personal documents anywhere, anytime.
3. My ever improving social skills. I can see how powerful they can be in creating the dream lifestyle.
4. Women. They are a source of inspiration for me.
5. All Stars. People around me are so inspiring.
A date with movie moment girl
As I was putting together my last field report I get a text from movie moment girl.
Her: I'm at spice market :) cooool spot
Me: thanks for the invite young lady!
Her: Haha where are you?
Me: in the city (I love that I live in the city)
Her: Drink? Wrapping up here...
Me: how long are you sticking around for?
Her: Haha another half unless you come
Me: give me about 20
I arrive at Spice Market and she's sitting with two guys trying to hit on her. I come in and say greet movie moment girl and introduce myself to the two guys. They work for a bank and are upping themselves about how cool they are. We chat for abit. They guys ask how we know each other. She says we have the same god grandmother and we haven't seen eachother since she died 6 months ago. I see she doesn't want them around so I say "let's go get that drink." We sit in the VIP area and we grab some cocktails. She's smoking hot. However she loves to talk. She's in PR and she's highly connected. I figure if I don't get lucky with her at least I'll have a friend who is in with the elite. I talk about how I am into self development and how I like to help others. We are sharing a fun vibe with abit of flirting and teasing.
I comment on how I like how she is very expressive and I ask her about it. She talks abit about it and then goes onto a spiel about God and Jesus. Please no! Not another Jesus freak! I try to cut it off but she keeps going on about God and the bible. Luckily for me she left her scarf on the other side of the venue. This gave me a minute to assess the situation and escape. She comes back and I tell her I have and early one tomorrow. I give her a hug and kiss goodbye and we agree to meet on the weekend.
Jesus freak I know! but I got in this game to be able to network with successful people and I think she is someone I can add to my network.
Her: I'm at spice market :) cooool spot
Me: thanks for the invite young lady!
Her: Haha where are you?
Me: in the city (I love that I live in the city)
Her: Drink? Wrapping up here...
Me: how long are you sticking around for?
Her: Haha another half unless you come
Me: give me about 20
I arrive at Spice Market and she's sitting with two guys trying to hit on her. I come in and say greet movie moment girl and introduce myself to the two guys. They work for a bank and are upping themselves about how cool they are. We chat for abit. They guys ask how we know each other. She says we have the same god grandmother and we haven't seen eachother since she died 6 months ago. I see she doesn't want them around so I say "let's go get that drink." We sit in the VIP area and we grab some cocktails. She's smoking hot. However she loves to talk. She's in PR and she's highly connected. I figure if I don't get lucky with her at least I'll have a friend who is in with the elite. I talk about how I am into self development and how I like to help others. We are sharing a fun vibe with abit of flirting and teasing.
I comment on how I like how she is very expressive and I ask her about it. She talks abit about it and then goes onto a spiel about God and Jesus. Please no! Not another Jesus freak! I try to cut it off but she keeps going on about God and the bible. Luckily for me she left her scarf on the other side of the venue. This gave me a minute to assess the situation and escape. She comes back and I tell her I have and early one tomorrow. I give her a hug and kiss goodbye and we agree to meet on the weekend.
Jesus freak I know! but I got in this game to be able to network with successful people and I think she is someone I can add to my network.
Daygame Adventures
I have been incredibly busy in recent times and haven't been able to journal as much as I like. I have been doing lots of daygame however I am experiencing a drop in results. Initially I thought it was as a result of integrating new skills from the Low Energy High Impact workshop with the Naturals. I have been practicing these new principles and integrating them in conversation but I have forgotten other critical aspects from what I was doing before the workshop. Last week I had done as many as 40 approaches and only managed one number. Though I have some interesting stories:
This girl I number closed had a boyfriend but was so impressed with my confidence that she wanted to give it anyway. Cool! I thought to myself. Later that night I get a call from her she wants to introduce me to a business idea. I tried to extract more details from her but she was very ambiguous. I asked her "is this a pyramid scheme?" She was quick to respond "no way. They're illegal." The quickness in the response got my alarms ringing. Either she is as sharp as an arrow or she's heard this question a thousand times before. I've agreed to meetup only for curiosity reasons.
I approached a cute blonde over the weekend. She was sweet and was equally investing in the conversation. I'm thinking to myself this is going too well. I went for the number close but she wouldn't give it to me as I did not believe in Jesus. I had no idea how to respond. Usually me approaching a woman during the day is a mindfuck for them. This time it was a mindfuck for me.
Anyway, most of my approaches have resulted in the woman saying she has a boyfriend. I haven't taken the time to take a step back and observe where I have been going wrong. I've found myself going for numbers rather than setting up dates during the interaction. I've been saying something along the lines of "I'd be kicking myself if I didn't get your number." Which has only resulted in her saying "I've got a boyfriend." I feel it's probably an auto response to the syntax. In setting up the date it's only natural she give her number once she agrees.
Yesterday I was out in the city doing some daygame with this in mind. At first I was in my head. A few dates have flaked on me and the lack of success during daygame in recent times was taking alot out of me. The first few approaches were rough and I forgot to implement corrections to my mistakes. As I approached more I found that the interactions were more free flowing and alot more fun.
I was at Melbourne Central and walking along the shops. I spot a sexy blonde walk ahead of me. Mmmmm! I have to talk to her. I wait for her to walk past me but she walks into the toilets. I decide to wait outside for her. I waited and waited. She must have been taking a massive dump. Really! Women poo? I see another blonde walk by and just as I was about to run after her other blonde walks out of the toilet. I let her walk for a few metres before approaching. I stop her and open direct. She is warm and very responsive. I challenge and qualify her abit with great effect. I showed abit of intent as well. I went for the number close but she said she had a boyfriend. I used Tim's line "cool we can be best friends!" After abit of hesitation she gives out her number.
I am getting my rhythm back! It was my last approach when it all really clicked. I am on my way home pretty content with what I achieved for the day. I walk through Myer towards the exit. As I am walking out I see a sexy brunette walk into the store. For a moment we lock eyes. It was amazing! It was like a movie moment. I stop and walk towards her and she stops where she was. "I had to come talk to you because you're absolutely gorgeous!" She was from Perth looking to move to Melbourne (there's alot of hot girls coming from Perth recently). We chat for abit and it's going well. We seem to have similar tastes in venues. She wants to check out Spice Market which I happen to be going to on Saturday. We agree to go on Saturday and I get her business card. It had her email on it so I decided to facebook stalk her. Mmmmm...She is fucking mint!
As much as I hate to type. Journaling is a big part of why I have grown so much in the last couple of months. It allows me to see myself in third-person and allows me to better assess where I am at and what actions I need to take in taking my game to the next level.
This girl I number closed had a boyfriend but was so impressed with my confidence that she wanted to give it anyway. Cool! I thought to myself. Later that night I get a call from her she wants to introduce me to a business idea. I tried to extract more details from her but she was very ambiguous. I asked her "is this a pyramid scheme?" She was quick to respond "no way. They're illegal." The quickness in the response got my alarms ringing. Either she is as sharp as an arrow or she's heard this question a thousand times before. I've agreed to meetup only for curiosity reasons.
I approached a cute blonde over the weekend. She was sweet and was equally investing in the conversation. I'm thinking to myself this is going too well. I went for the number close but she wouldn't give it to me as I did not believe in Jesus. I had no idea how to respond. Usually me approaching a woman during the day is a mindfuck for them. This time it was a mindfuck for me.
Anyway, most of my approaches have resulted in the woman saying she has a boyfriend. I haven't taken the time to take a step back and observe where I have been going wrong. I've found myself going for numbers rather than setting up dates during the interaction. I've been saying something along the lines of "I'd be kicking myself if I didn't get your number." Which has only resulted in her saying "I've got a boyfriend." I feel it's probably an auto response to the syntax. In setting up the date it's only natural she give her number once she agrees.
Yesterday I was out in the city doing some daygame with this in mind. At first I was in my head. A few dates have flaked on me and the lack of success during daygame in recent times was taking alot out of me. The first few approaches were rough and I forgot to implement corrections to my mistakes. As I approached more I found that the interactions were more free flowing and alot more fun.
I was at Melbourne Central and walking along the shops. I spot a sexy blonde walk ahead of me. Mmmmm! I have to talk to her. I wait for her to walk past me but she walks into the toilets. I decide to wait outside for her. I waited and waited. She must have been taking a massive dump. Really! Women poo? I see another blonde walk by and just as I was about to run after her other blonde walks out of the toilet. I let her walk for a few metres before approaching. I stop her and open direct. She is warm and very responsive. I challenge and qualify her abit with great effect. I showed abit of intent as well. I went for the number close but she said she had a boyfriend. I used Tim's line "cool we can be best friends!" After abit of hesitation she gives out her number.
I am getting my rhythm back! It was my last approach when it all really clicked. I am on my way home pretty content with what I achieved for the day. I walk through Myer towards the exit. As I am walking out I see a sexy brunette walk into the store. For a moment we lock eyes. It was amazing! It was like a movie moment. I stop and walk towards her and she stops where she was. "I had to come talk to you because you're absolutely gorgeous!" She was from Perth looking to move to Melbourne (there's alot of hot girls coming from Perth recently). We chat for abit and it's going well. We seem to have similar tastes in venues. She wants to check out Spice Market which I happen to be going to on Saturday. We agree to go on Saturday and I get her business card. It had her email on it so I decided to facebook stalk her. Mmmmm...She is fucking mint!
As much as I hate to type. Journaling is a big part of why I have grown so much in the last couple of months. It allows me to see myself in third-person and allows me to better assess where I am at and what actions I need to take in taking my game to the next level.
Wednesday, August 11, 2010
Being honest
Kathryn is someone I met earlier this year and we began what was a very short lived open relationship. One night I chose to hang out with the boys to pickup girls which triggered her to end it. At the time I didn't feel I had done anything wrong. We had agreed to an open relationship and I should have the right to go out and meet other girls. I was burned when she broke it off with me.
After looking at the situation in a third person perspective (I knew someone who was in the same situation) I realised the fuck up I had made. This was a few months later. She had a agreed on an open relationship and I was a cunt in going out, meeting girls and rubbing it in her face. "Look at me get other girls!" This did nothing but fuel my ego and as a result I hurt someone I really cared about.
I texted Kathryn a few months after we broke up. Explaining the realisation of the fuck up I had made. I wasn't expecting anything out of it. I just felt to some extent an apology was well overdue.
Last week Kathryn texted me asking to hang out with her. We agreed to meet at my apartment. At the time I had someone staying over. We tried to have a chat but this person staying over wouldn't give us a chance to talk. Last time I'll help someone I don't really know.
We agreed to meet last night. We had a couple of drinks and we discussed what went wrong when we were seeing each other. We cleared up alot of misconcceptions and miscommunications. I opened myself up to the truth of who I was and what type of person I was. She knew my truth already which left me with nothing but brutal honesty. She saw me for all my flaws and my strengths. It was an incredibly deep conversation we had.
We ended up at my apartment where I showed her some videos on my laptop. None of that mattered to her. She wanted to find out more about me. She wanted to uncover my deepest secrets. I would only open up a little but she knew there was more to it. I could no longer speak. She saw me for the real me and I was lost for words. She looked at me and played with my head with her fingers. Gentle and soft. I gazed into her eyes and she kissed me on the cheek. I came in close and kissed her on the lips.
We lie in my bed until 2am in the morning. She was trying to convince me to settle for a monogamous relationship but I stood my ground. I told her I would be lying to her and myself if I were to settle for her. This went on for hours but yet we still kissed till the early hours of the morning. She left saying this is going to be the last time I ever see her. As much as I knew it was going to hurt I accepted it.
I lie in bed this morning thinking about her. I could still smell her purfume on my pillow and a strand of her hair in my bed. I didn't know how to feel. Here's a woman I bared my soul to and yet I will no longer see her again. Or so I thought. I get a call from her this morning say she called a sickie and she wanted to see me. I spent the morning having breakfast with her and we agreed to give it another shot.
As I was holding her she said that the way I touch her and hold her seems different but she love it. It seems more intimate and affectionate. It demonstrated to me how much I have changed in such a short time since I was with her. Intimacy has been an issue for me in recent times and to have someone who was with me before to see me now has been a huge confidence boost for me.
The biggest thing I have got out of Kathryn was that it's OK to be honest. If you are truthful with your intentions and are true to them she will more appreciating and more accepting of you.
After looking at the situation in a third person perspective (I knew someone who was in the same situation) I realised the fuck up I had made. This was a few months later. She had a agreed on an open relationship and I was a cunt in going out, meeting girls and rubbing it in her face. "Look at me get other girls!" This did nothing but fuel my ego and as a result I hurt someone I really cared about.
I texted Kathryn a few months after we broke up. Explaining the realisation of the fuck up I had made. I wasn't expecting anything out of it. I just felt to some extent an apology was well overdue.
Last week Kathryn texted me asking to hang out with her. We agreed to meet at my apartment. At the time I had someone staying over. We tried to have a chat but this person staying over wouldn't give us a chance to talk. Last time I'll help someone I don't really know.
We agreed to meet last night. We had a couple of drinks and we discussed what went wrong when we were seeing each other. We cleared up alot of misconcceptions and miscommunications. I opened myself up to the truth of who I was and what type of person I was. She knew my truth already which left me with nothing but brutal honesty. She saw me for all my flaws and my strengths. It was an incredibly deep conversation we had.
We ended up at my apartment where I showed her some videos on my laptop. None of that mattered to her. She wanted to find out more about me. She wanted to uncover my deepest secrets. I would only open up a little but she knew there was more to it. I could no longer speak. She saw me for the real me and I was lost for words. She looked at me and played with my head with her fingers. Gentle and soft. I gazed into her eyes and she kissed me on the cheek. I came in close and kissed her on the lips.
We lie in my bed until 2am in the morning. She was trying to convince me to settle for a monogamous relationship but I stood my ground. I told her I would be lying to her and myself if I were to settle for her. This went on for hours but yet we still kissed till the early hours of the morning. She left saying this is going to be the last time I ever see her. As much as I knew it was going to hurt I accepted it.
I lie in bed this morning thinking about her. I could still smell her purfume on my pillow and a strand of her hair in my bed. I didn't know how to feel. Here's a woman I bared my soul to and yet I will no longer see her again. Or so I thought. I get a call from her this morning say she called a sickie and she wanted to see me. I spent the morning having breakfast with her and we agreed to give it another shot.
As I was holding her she said that the way I touch her and hold her seems different but she love it. It seems more intimate and affectionate. It demonstrated to me how much I have changed in such a short time since I was with her. Intimacy has been an issue for me in recent times and to have someone who was with me before to see me now has been a huge confidence boost for me.
The biggest thing I have got out of Kathryn was that it's OK to be honest. If you are truthful with your intentions and are true to them she will more appreciating and more accepting of you.
All Stars Ivan - Scores Breakdown
09/08/2010
50 - Find a new income stream
50 - Open a savings bank account
50 - Open an online shares trading account
50 - Save 10% of your income
50 - Do a budget
50 - Order the book The Richest Man in Babylon
50 - Order the book "Rich Dad, Poor Dad"
40 - Action step towards my goal - Daygame
2000 - Achieve one of my goals - Invest in shares
40 - Action step towards my goal - Read the 4 hour work week
40 - Action step towards my goal - Read Cassanova's Diary
40 - Action step towards my goal - Listened to Sexual Magnetism
10/08/2010
40 - Action step towards my goal - BJJ
40 - Action step towards my goal - Read the 4 hour work week
40 - Action step towards my goal - Listened to Sexual Magnetism
11/08/2010
50 - A Girls Guide to Sex
40 - Action step towards my goal - Daygame
40 - Action step towards my goal - Went on a date with a woman
40 - Action step towards my goal - Spent time in isolation with a woman
40 - Action step towards my goal - Read the 4 hour work week
40 - Action step towards my goal - Listened to Sexual Magnetism
12/08/2010
40 - Action step towards my goal - Read the 4 hour work week
13/08/2010
40 - Action step towards my goal - Nightgame
14/08/2010
40 - Action step towards my goal - Nightgame
40 - Action step towards my goal - Went in sexual with a woman x3
40 - Action step towards my goal - Listened to Sexual Magnetism
15/08/2010
40 - Action step towards my goal - Nightgame
40 - Action step towards my goal - Daygame
50 - Find a new income stream
50 - Open a savings bank account
50 - Open an online shares trading account
50 - Save 10% of your income
50 - Do a budget
50 - Order the book The Richest Man in Babylon
50 - Order the book "Rich Dad, Poor Dad"
40 - Action step towards my goal - Daygame
2000 - Achieve one of my goals - Invest in shares
40 - Action step towards my goal - Read the 4 hour work week
40 - Action step towards my goal - Read Cassanova's Diary
40 - Action step towards my goal - Listened to Sexual Magnetism
10/08/2010
40 - Action step towards my goal - BJJ
40 - Action step towards my goal - Read the 4 hour work week
40 - Action step towards my goal - Listened to Sexual Magnetism
11/08/2010
50 - A Girls Guide to Sex
40 - Action step towards my goal - Daygame
40 - Action step towards my goal - Went on a date with a woman
40 - Action step towards my goal - Spent time in isolation with a woman
40 - Action step towards my goal - Read the 4 hour work week
40 - Action step towards my goal - Listened to Sexual Magnetism
12/08/2010
40 - Action step towards my goal - Read the 4 hour work week
13/08/2010
40 - Action step towards my goal - Nightgame
14/08/2010
40 - Action step towards my goal - Nightgame
40 - Action step towards my goal - Went in sexual with a woman x3
40 - Action step towards my goal - Listened to Sexual Magnetism
15/08/2010
40 - Action step towards my goal - Nightgame
40 - Action step towards my goal - Daygame
10 Goals to Reach in the Next 90 Days
In achieving some of my goals recently and opened myself up to new ideas, I have decided to add and change some of my goals.
Start Date Finish Date The Specific Measurable Goal Completed
07/06/2010 07/09/2010 1.To be able to confidently express myself sexually with women - On track
07/06/2010 07/09/2010 2.To spend 50 hours in isolation and having fun with women
07/06/2010 07/09/2010 3.To attend 10 interviews for $100k jobs
07/06/2010 07/09/2010 4.To compete in a BJJ competition - On track
07/06/2010 07/09/2010 5.To invest in shares
07/06/2010 07/09/2010 7.Enjoy 10 dates with 10 different women - On track
07/06/2010 07/09/2010 8.To be more open about my fears and mental blockages - On track
7/6/2010 7/9/2010 9.Get my logistics sorted
07/06/2010 07/09/2010 10.Create a strong presence in any situation - On track
10/08/2010 10/11/2010 11.Create another avenue of passive income. Ebay business.
19/08/2010 19/11/2010 12.Infiltrate and build a new social circle consisting of sexy ladies
19/08/2010 19/11/2010 13.Have rolemodels and mentors influence me each day
19/08/2010 19/11/2010 14.Start an Image and Style blog
19/08/2010 19/11/2010 15.Organise a charity event
Start Date Finish Date The Specific Measurable Goal Completed
07/06/2010 07/09/2010 1.To be able to confidently express myself sexually with women - On track
07/06/2010 07/09/2010 2.To spend 50 hours in isolation and having fun with women
07/06/2010 07/09/2010 3.To attend 10 interviews for $100k jobs
07/06/2010 07/09/2010 4.To compete in a BJJ competition - On track
07/06/2010 07/09/2010 5.To invest in shares
07/06/2010 07/09/2010 7.Enjoy 10 dates with 10 different women - On track
07/06/2010 07/09/2010 8.To be more open about my fears and mental blockages - On track
7/6/2010 7/9/2010 9.Get my logistics sorted
07/06/2010 07/09/2010 10.Create a strong presence in any situation - On track
10/08/2010 10/11/2010 11.Create another avenue of passive income. Ebay business.
19/08/2010 19/11/2010 12.Infiltrate and build a new social circle consisting of sexy ladies
19/08/2010 19/11/2010 13.Have rolemodels and mentors influence me each day
19/08/2010 19/11/2010 14.Start an Image and Style blog
19/08/2010 19/11/2010 15.Organise a charity event
Saturday, August 7, 2010
5 Things I am greatful for 07/08/2010
1. Women. A puzzle to unlock and learn. I challenge I have come to enjoy and love.
2. Mentoring. I really enjoy taking the time to help others have success with women.
3. A social circle consisting of some of the most inspiring people I have met.
4. Shelter. I love that I have my own space and I have the freedom to clear my head and gather my thoughts in a peaceful environment.
5. My sister Oanh. We have become really close as brother and sister and I value the time we have when we talk to each other.
2. Mentoring. I really enjoy taking the time to help others have success with women.
3. A social circle consisting of some of the most inspiring people I have met.
4. Shelter. I love that I have my own space and I have the freedom to clear my head and gather my thoughts in a peaceful environment.
5. My sister Oanh. We have become really close as brother and sister and I value the time we have when we talk to each other.
All Stars January Scores Breakdown
50 - Find the hottest 10 women you can, and talk to them.
50 - Ask out the hottest girl you can for a date.
02/08/2010
50 - Go to a fashion show
40 - Action step towards my goal - Daygame
40 - Action step towards my goal - Nightgame
40 - Action step towards my goal - Listened to sexual magnetism
03/08/2010
40 - Action step towards my goal - BJJ
40 - Action step towards my goal - Daygame
40 - Action step towards my goal - Listened to sexual magnetism
04/08/2010
40 - Action step towards my goal - BJJ
40 - Action step towards my goal - Daygame
40 - Action step towards my goal - Listened to sexual magnetism
20 - 5 things I am greatful for
05/08/2010
40 - Action step towards my goal - Daygame
40 - Action step towards my goal - Listened to sexual magnetism
40 - Action step towards my goal - Read Cassanova's diary
40 - Action step towards my goal - Read One up on Wall Street
40 - Action step towards my goal - Read Power
06/08/2010
40 - Action step towards my goal - Daygame
40 - Action step towards my goal - Listened to sexual magnetism
07/08/2010
40 - Action step towards my goal - Daygame
40 - Action step towards my goal - Listened to sexual magnetism
20 - 5 Things I am greatful for
08/08/2010
50 - Ask out the hottest girl you can for a date.
02/08/2010
50 - Go to a fashion show
40 - Action step towards my goal - Daygame
40 - Action step towards my goal - Nightgame
40 - Action step towards my goal - Listened to sexual magnetism
03/08/2010
40 - Action step towards my goal - BJJ
40 - Action step towards my goal - Daygame
40 - Action step towards my goal - Listened to sexual magnetism
04/08/2010
40 - Action step towards my goal - BJJ
40 - Action step towards my goal - Daygame
40 - Action step towards my goal - Listened to sexual magnetism
20 - 5 things I am greatful for
05/08/2010
40 - Action step towards my goal - Daygame
40 - Action step towards my goal - Listened to sexual magnetism
40 - Action step towards my goal - Read Cassanova's diary
40 - Action step towards my goal - Read One up on Wall Street
40 - Action step towards my goal - Read Power
06/08/2010
40 - Action step towards my goal - Daygame
40 - Action step towards my goal - Listened to sexual magnetism
07/08/2010
40 - Action step towards my goal - Daygame
40 - Action step towards my goal - Listened to sexual magnetism
20 - 5 Things I am greatful for
08/08/2010
Tuesday, August 3, 2010
Tane Escalation Super Conference
Since the beginning of my journey I have done workshops various companies. Here's a summary:
- Weekend Bootcamp and additional infield sessions with Alex from the Art of Suave
- 3 month lifestyle coaching with Matt
- Matt's Conversation Camp
- Approach Energy with the Naturals
- Daygame infield with Almog
- Life Purpose workshop with Matt
- All Stars
- Low Energy High Impact workshop with the Naturals
I'm looking to do a couple more with some of the other Melbourne companies to see what they offer. I'm sure they have alot.
From all the workshops I have done, I have come out a different person everytime I have done one of Matt's workshops. I'm not taking anything away from the other companies as they too have helped my growth massively. I think why I have achieved awesome results with Matt is because he addresses my obstacles down to the core. Matt says it as it is. There is no sugarcoating and I have been honest and direct in addressing my obstacles.
The Tane Escalation Conference was no different from any other workshop I have done with Matt. Intense, practical, draining, fun, exciting and value for money.
The first night we got to meet Tane and had a glimpse of his lifestyle and how his mind operates. Just hearing some of his stories was really inspiring. We also had a chance to introduce ourselves and talk about where we were at. I was open and honest about where I was at. I have trouble expressing my sexuality and being honest about my desires. This is where I have fallen short in the past couple of months. Tane spoke more about his lifestyle and mindsets which layed the foundations for the next couple of days to come. I was nervous but I was excited at the same time. Being sexual and showing intent has been one of my major sticking points recently and I felt we were in for a crazy ride.
I went out after with Damien (flavio) to hit on some women. We went to Carlton Club and Transport. Damien like always is opening sets left, right and centre. I opened a few sets but women weren't having anything of me. I managed to get a few approach invitations as well but after abit of mingling they would just walk off. I bumped into Paul Zelic and Steph at Transport and we had a chat for abit about my progress before heading home. I have an early one tomorrow.
The next day was focused on practical exercises which involved body language, vocal tonality and volume. We also had the pleasure of practicing these exercises on two gorgeous ladies. Mia and Mian. Both were great in giving a female perspective on our approaches and how we came across to them. At first I felt abit rigid and stiff but with a few minor tweaks I could begin to see things come together.
We took a long break before doing the second part of the workshop. This is where the good stuff begins. We started off with isolation, roleplay and turning things sexual. Though I wasn't quite putting it together I could feel I was getting there. The real magic happened when Matt got us doing some visualisation and hypnosis stuff. We did the exercises again and we were killing it. Just about everyone in the class was a changed man. The workshop was not focused on techniques to escalate with a woman but more capturing the mindsets of a man who goes foe what he wants
For the infield we went to Bridey O'Reilley's on Chapel St. I arrived there pretty early with Damo and Richard. I was quite nervous. I opened a few sets and exchanged some friendly chat. Not long after I arrived Matt and Tane enter the venue. We go upstairs and scope the venue. Matt spots a cute brunette with short hair and curls. He points her out and tells me to go in. I was feeling alot of anxiety as she was in a group. Matt and Tane turn away from me and I'm like "fuck OK!" I walk in and introduce myself to her and right there I get in her space and suck her in to my reality. She is loving it. I'm shocked that it's working so well. I now start thinking "fuck! What do I do now?" I pull back and go for the number close and eject.
I go downstairs and Tane sees Mike talking to two blondes. Tane tells me to go in and wing him. I assume Mike is going for the cuter of the two so I position myself so he can talk to her while I keep the friend company. Abit on the porky side I go in hard anyway. I draw her close and show some intent and she's really enjoying my space. Mike turns to the girl I'm talking to and they're getting abit of a flow going. I notice the cutie was just standing there so I walk over to the other blonde and get in her space. We did abit of roleplay and we were throwing a few teases back and forth. She's a salsa dancer. Seeing as I do salsa myself I get her number and we agree to do salsa sometime.
Mike and I approach a group of three. An ADHD blonde and a couple of brunettes. I like the tall curvaceous one so I isolate her within the group. I get into her space and we get quite flirty. It seems like as we can't seem to engage ADHD blonde we lose the group.
I jump onto the dancefloor and decide to try what Damo told me he tried a while back. That is to stand on the middle of the dancefloor still. I'm standing in the middle of the dancefloor amused seeing the look on the guys faces thinking "what the hell is this guy doing?" After a few minutes sexy blonde walks past and locks eyes with me. As she is walking away I tap her on the shoulder and pull her in close and ask "What's your name?" Being as direct as I was I was using alot of high impact questions to really spike things up. She backed off saying "this is happening too fast. Let's goto the bar for a drink." We get to the bar and she says "I thought I take you some place quieter so we could have a conversation." Here I'm thinking "oh fuck! What do I do?... Fuck it! I'll go hard" :) I go through some boring talk with her while I'm building up more tension with my eyes, my use of slower speech and being in her space. It becomes too much for her and she pushes me off and walks away. Awww burn!
I spent the night approaching lots of sets and lots of blowouts. It didn't stop me. I felt empowered that night to go for what I want. I was a sexual beast. Women loved me. Only setback was that I started getting in my head when it was all going too well. We then left to goto Lucky Coq. On our way there I did a few street approaches. The interactions went well but I couldn't get a close.
I continued on with the momentum I had for most of the night. I saw something and I went for it and didn't worry about the outcome. That night I felt like a different man. If I saw a girl I liked, I had to go for her. I felt really confident. I felt like I had this amazing presence and I could suck women into my reality. They were in my space and I really owned it. And if I got blown out, who gives a fuck? I was so deep in my own world that I didn't even care. I must say this was the best night I've had out in a very long time.
The last day started with a debrief of the night before. It was evident that all of us went through a massive transformation. My concern was how do I keep the momentum going? The session was focused on building a lifestyle which reflects a person who goes for what he wants and to eliminate areas of my life where I couldn't be that person. For me the biggest areas were at home and at work. I was putting up with a lot of shit from family and I was putting up with alot at work. Luckily for me I have moved out but work is an area I have to work on.
The biggest thing I got out of the weekend was giving myself the permission to go for what I want. I knew there was this person inside of me all along but being around Matt and Tane as well as a great group of guys allowed me to let go and let my true self come through.
- Weekend Bootcamp and additional infield sessions with Alex from the Art of Suave
- 3 month lifestyle coaching with Matt
- Matt's Conversation Camp
- Approach Energy with the Naturals
- Daygame infield with Almog
- Life Purpose workshop with Matt
- All Stars
- Low Energy High Impact workshop with the Naturals
I'm looking to do a couple more with some of the other Melbourne companies to see what they offer. I'm sure they have alot.
From all the workshops I have done, I have come out a different person everytime I have done one of Matt's workshops. I'm not taking anything away from the other companies as they too have helped my growth massively. I think why I have achieved awesome results with Matt is because he addresses my obstacles down to the core. Matt says it as it is. There is no sugarcoating and I have been honest and direct in addressing my obstacles.
The Tane Escalation Conference was no different from any other workshop I have done with Matt. Intense, practical, draining, fun, exciting and value for money.
The first night we got to meet Tane and had a glimpse of his lifestyle and how his mind operates. Just hearing some of his stories was really inspiring. We also had a chance to introduce ourselves and talk about where we were at. I was open and honest about where I was at. I have trouble expressing my sexuality and being honest about my desires. This is where I have fallen short in the past couple of months. Tane spoke more about his lifestyle and mindsets which layed the foundations for the next couple of days to come. I was nervous but I was excited at the same time. Being sexual and showing intent has been one of my major sticking points recently and I felt we were in for a crazy ride.
I went out after with Damien (flavio) to hit on some women. We went to Carlton Club and Transport. Damien like always is opening sets left, right and centre. I opened a few sets but women weren't having anything of me. I managed to get a few approach invitations as well but after abit of mingling they would just walk off. I bumped into Paul Zelic and Steph at Transport and we had a chat for abit about my progress before heading home. I have an early one tomorrow.
The next day was focused on practical exercises which involved body language, vocal tonality and volume. We also had the pleasure of practicing these exercises on two gorgeous ladies. Mia and Mian. Both were great in giving a female perspective on our approaches and how we came across to them. At first I felt abit rigid and stiff but with a few minor tweaks I could begin to see things come together.
We took a long break before doing the second part of the workshop. This is where the good stuff begins. We started off with isolation, roleplay and turning things sexual. Though I wasn't quite putting it together I could feel I was getting there. The real magic happened when Matt got us doing some visualisation and hypnosis stuff. We did the exercises again and we were killing it. Just about everyone in the class was a changed man. The workshop was not focused on techniques to escalate with a woman but more capturing the mindsets of a man who goes foe what he wants
For the infield we went to Bridey O'Reilley's on Chapel St. I arrived there pretty early with Damo and Richard. I was quite nervous. I opened a few sets and exchanged some friendly chat. Not long after I arrived Matt and Tane enter the venue. We go upstairs and scope the venue. Matt spots a cute brunette with short hair and curls. He points her out and tells me to go in. I was feeling alot of anxiety as she was in a group. Matt and Tane turn away from me and I'm like "fuck OK!" I walk in and introduce myself to her and right there I get in her space and suck her in to my reality. She is loving it. I'm shocked that it's working so well. I now start thinking "fuck! What do I do now?" I pull back and go for the number close and eject.
I go downstairs and Tane sees Mike talking to two blondes. Tane tells me to go in and wing him. I assume Mike is going for the cuter of the two so I position myself so he can talk to her while I keep the friend company. Abit on the porky side I go in hard anyway. I draw her close and show some intent and she's really enjoying my space. Mike turns to the girl I'm talking to and they're getting abit of a flow going. I notice the cutie was just standing there so I walk over to the other blonde and get in her space. We did abit of roleplay and we were throwing a few teases back and forth. She's a salsa dancer. Seeing as I do salsa myself I get her number and we agree to do salsa sometime.
Mike and I approach a group of three. An ADHD blonde and a couple of brunettes. I like the tall curvaceous one so I isolate her within the group. I get into her space and we get quite flirty. It seems like as we can't seem to engage ADHD blonde we lose the group.
I jump onto the dancefloor and decide to try what Damo told me he tried a while back. That is to stand on the middle of the dancefloor still. I'm standing in the middle of the dancefloor amused seeing the look on the guys faces thinking "what the hell is this guy doing?" After a few minutes sexy blonde walks past and locks eyes with me. As she is walking away I tap her on the shoulder and pull her in close and ask "What's your name?" Being as direct as I was I was using alot of high impact questions to really spike things up. She backed off saying "this is happening too fast. Let's goto the bar for a drink." We get to the bar and she says "I thought I take you some place quieter so we could have a conversation." Here I'm thinking "oh fuck! What do I do?... Fuck it! I'll go hard" :) I go through some boring talk with her while I'm building up more tension with my eyes, my use of slower speech and being in her space. It becomes too much for her and she pushes me off and walks away. Awww burn!
I spent the night approaching lots of sets and lots of blowouts. It didn't stop me. I felt empowered that night to go for what I want. I was a sexual beast. Women loved me. Only setback was that I started getting in my head when it was all going too well. We then left to goto Lucky Coq. On our way there I did a few street approaches. The interactions went well but I couldn't get a close.
I continued on with the momentum I had for most of the night. I saw something and I went for it and didn't worry about the outcome. That night I felt like a different man. If I saw a girl I liked, I had to go for her. I felt really confident. I felt like I had this amazing presence and I could suck women into my reality. They were in my space and I really owned it. And if I got blown out, who gives a fuck? I was so deep in my own world that I didn't even care. I must say this was the best night I've had out in a very long time.
The last day started with a debrief of the night before. It was evident that all of us went through a massive transformation. My concern was how do I keep the momentum going? The session was focused on building a lifestyle which reflects a person who goes for what he wants and to eliminate areas of my life where I couldn't be that person. For me the biggest areas were at home and at work. I was putting up with a lot of shit from family and I was putting up with alot at work. Luckily for me I have moved out but work is an area I have to work on.
The biggest thing I got out of the weekend was giving myself the permission to go for what I want. I knew there was this person inside of me all along but being around Matt and Tane as well as a great group of guys allowed me to let go and let my true self come through.
5 Things I am greatful for 4/08/2010
1. Women. Their amazing beauty. Something to be appreciated.
2. The dark side. Opening up a world of possibilities
3. Freedom and space. To reflect and grow.
4. Internet. It has been painful without it.
5. Matt and All Stars. For opening me up to the idea of being a designer of my own destiny.
2. The dark side. Opening up a world of possibilities
3. Freedom and space. To reflect and grow.
4. Internet. It has been painful without it.
5. Matt and All Stars. For opening me up to the idea of being a designer of my own destiny.
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