I don't know if I have mentioned this already but I have been doing the Approach Energy class with the Naturals. One area I have always struggled with is conversation. I'd run out of things to say or I have trouble keeping things interesting or taking the interaction sexual or directing the interaction to where I want to take it. When talking to a woman, she will always be throwing out cues to take the conversation further. They can go one of the following paths:
As an example, you ask a girl what she's up to for 2010 and she says travelling, you can either
1. Flirt
Travelling? Sweet where we going, i hope you don't snore.
2. Tease her
Haha i need to warn the boys of europe to watch out for you then
3. Qualify her on the answer/topic
Are you travelling like hotel travelling or are you going to actually go see the awesome parts of the country?
4. Find out what motivates her/what's important to her
What are you looking forward to most about travelling?
5. Relate/Comment
Oh I went to New York last year it was amazing, you're going to have so much fun...
I will update this post with cues women give me and write down ways I can direct the conversation.
Melbourne
Flirt
Tease - I'm gonna tell the Melbourne boys about you ;)
Qualify - Are you hotel travelling or are you actually here to see the awesome parts of Melbourne?
Motivations/Feelings - What part of Melbourne are you looking forward to seeing most?
Relate/Comment - Wow! It must be amazing to be away from your hometown to see new places. It must be
UK
Shopping
Flirt - Cool! What are you getting me?
Tease - High maintenence girl! My mum warned me about you!
Qualify - Are you like a window shopper or are you a a big spender who maxes out their credit cards?
Motivations - It's always nice to try on a new outfit. It makes you feel like a different person.
Relate - I've always wanted to goto the UK...
Boyfriend
Flirt - Want another one?
Tease - Great! We can be best friends!
Qualify - How's that working out for you?
Motivations/Feelings - It's a great feeling to be with someone who you feel connected with.
Relate - My ex gf...
Work
Flirt
Tease - It must be a buzz to sit on your ass checking out facebook and watching the clock till it's hometime
Qualify - So are you a hard worker? or hardly working?
Motivations/Feelings - What's the best thing about your job?
Relate -
Day off
Wednesday, March 31, 2010
Tuesday, March 30, 2010
In the city for some more.
30/03/2010: Melbourne CBD
I'm not gonna lie to you, I was emotionally affected by how I went on Monday. Sometimes as much as you hate to admit it words can hurt. Blowouts really suck! But I can't stop now. I've come a long way in the past few months and if I were to stop now I know that I would be beating myself up for it for the rest of my life. So Tuesday I went to the city to start all over again.
Approach #1: Cute blondie (I think every blonde I've mentioned here is cute)
I'm walking along Swanston and I see a cute blonde trying to charge through the crowd. There's abit of approach anxiety but I do it anyway. I catch up to her and I open "Melbourne people just don't walk fast enough." She giggles and I follow up with "it's funny how people will walk along and not talk to nobody" anyway we have a quick chat. Vibe is abit low energy but I seem to hold her attention. She mentions she has a boyfriend but I keep the conversation flowing. I go ahead and number close her which she is happy to do.
I played the questions guy here. There was abit to work with here which could have made the interaction alot more solid.
Approach #2: fair skinned Finnish girl
I'm walking towards Myer when I see a slim blonde walk out of Myer. I follow her and I see she is trying to rush through the crowd. I was going to open with "Melbourne people don't walk fast enough" but she was wearing earphones. So I get her attention and open mild direct. She didn't seem so receptive but I keep going. I go for the number close but she says she has a boyfriend so I facebook close.
Approach #3: hot blonde blowout!
I did exactly just that. I blew out! I see a gorgeous blonde walk past me and I'm hesitant at first but then I thought "fuck it!" I turn around and open mild direct. She seems receptive at first but then she says shes in a hurry. I go for the number close and I get a hard "NO!" and she walks off.
Approach #4: cute brunette in cute outfit
So I've done a few laps around the city and I'm abit drained so I decide to check out crown. As I'm walking there I see a cute brunette walking towards me. I open with "I know this is kind of random but I just had to come over and say that is a lovely outfit." She lights up and she says "thankyou". I left thinking she stopped why didn't I take it further? I guess the previous approaches may have discouraged me to take things abit further.
Approach #5: Cute brunette in jeanie pants.
I'm walking under the tunnel at Flinder St station and I see a gorgeous brunette in front of me. I chase after her and open mild direct. She didn't quite hear me the first time and I had to repeat myself. I think I was talking too fast. Also my body language may have been too investing as she seemed to have lost her balance and fall back wards. Anyway she was in a rush so I go for the number close but she say she has a boyfriend. I take it further by saying we should be best friends but it doesn't go any further.
A few things to take away:
- Slow it down! Slow motion baby
- calibrate body language
- it's these days that will add up over time which will make you good at this
I'm not gonna lie to you, I was emotionally affected by how I went on Monday. Sometimes as much as you hate to admit it words can hurt. Blowouts really suck! But I can't stop now. I've come a long way in the past few months and if I were to stop now I know that I would be beating myself up for it for the rest of my life. So Tuesday I went to the city to start all over again.
Approach #1: Cute blondie (I think every blonde I've mentioned here is cute)
I'm walking along Swanston and I see a cute blonde trying to charge through the crowd. There's abit of approach anxiety but I do it anyway. I catch up to her and I open "Melbourne people just don't walk fast enough." She giggles and I follow up with "it's funny how people will walk along and not talk to nobody" anyway we have a quick chat. Vibe is abit low energy but I seem to hold her attention. She mentions she has a boyfriend but I keep the conversation flowing. I go ahead and number close her which she is happy to do.
I played the questions guy here. There was abit to work with here which could have made the interaction alot more solid.
Approach #2: fair skinned Finnish girl
I'm walking towards Myer when I see a slim blonde walk out of Myer. I follow her and I see she is trying to rush through the crowd. I was going to open with "Melbourne people don't walk fast enough" but she was wearing earphones. So I get her attention and open mild direct. She didn't seem so receptive but I keep going. I go for the number close but she says she has a boyfriend so I facebook close.
Approach #3: hot blonde blowout!
I did exactly just that. I blew out! I see a gorgeous blonde walk past me and I'm hesitant at first but then I thought "fuck it!" I turn around and open mild direct. She seems receptive at first but then she says shes in a hurry. I go for the number close and I get a hard "NO!" and she walks off.
Approach #4: cute brunette in cute outfit
So I've done a few laps around the city and I'm abit drained so I decide to check out crown. As I'm walking there I see a cute brunette walking towards me. I open with "I know this is kind of random but I just had to come over and say that is a lovely outfit." She lights up and she says "thankyou". I left thinking she stopped why didn't I take it further? I guess the previous approaches may have discouraged me to take things abit further.
Approach #5: Cute brunette in jeanie pants.
I'm walking under the tunnel at Flinder St station and I see a gorgeous brunette in front of me. I chase after her and open mild direct. She didn't quite hear me the first time and I had to repeat myself. I think I was talking too fast. Also my body language may have been too investing as she seemed to have lost her balance and fall back wards. Anyway she was in a rush so I go for the number close but she say she has a boyfriend. I take it further by saying we should be best friends but it doesn't go any further.
A few things to take away:
- Slow it down! Slow motion baby
- calibrate body language
- it's these days that will add up over time which will make you good at this
Monday, March 29, 2010
It's all in my head...
29/03/2010: Chadstone Shopping Centre/Melbourne CBD
Today was a rough day for me. It's one of those days which gets me thinking why do I do what I do? I have to remind myself that things will only get better. Just keep going out there.
Approach #1: bitchy blonde
I'm at Chaddy and have done one too many laps around the shopping centre looking for someone to approach. I think this is the last lap I do. As I'm walking I see a blonde walking towards me texting on her phone. I approach mild direct but she doesn't seem very responsive. I ask what adventures she has planned for the day and she says coffee with friends. Then I get stuck and I say "sooo!" and she's quick to say she has a boyfriend and walks off. I'm not going to lie. This had an effect on me and I really got in my head. It set the tone for the rest of the day. I have to remember, if she'e not going to respond to well then she's not someone you want to be with.
Approach #2: cute blonde
So after a spectacular blowout I decide to leave chaddy to change things up. Again I'm in my head and doing laps around the city. I'm walking along Bourke St mall when I see this cute blonde walking inside Myer so I go after her. She walks back out when I stop her. "I just had to talk to you because you're really beautiful." She's in a hurry to be somewhere and I offer to go with her in which she says no. I think I could hace taken it a step further and asked for the number.
Approach #3: cute brunette
I couldn't get myself to approach any more so I decide to have lunch. I see a few girls walking by at the food court but I figure I'll eat my food. I see a gorgeous brunette in front of my and I'm running all the openers I could run in my head but still I couldn't approach. I finish my lunch and make my way out. As I'm walking out I see a cute brunette go down the escalators. I stop her and open mild direct. She seems very receptive but I had trouble following up. Again seeing as she was in a hurry I should have pressed for a number close.
A few things to remember:
- number close. Take the interaction one step further.
- keep doing what you're doing. You're so close, you don't even realise it.
- blowouts are no reflection of you, just your approach.
Today was a rough day for me. It's one of those days which gets me thinking why do I do what I do? I have to remind myself that things will only get better. Just keep going out there.
Approach #1: bitchy blonde
I'm at Chaddy and have done one too many laps around the shopping centre looking for someone to approach. I think this is the last lap I do. As I'm walking I see a blonde walking towards me texting on her phone. I approach mild direct but she doesn't seem very responsive. I ask what adventures she has planned for the day and she says coffee with friends. Then I get stuck and I say "sooo!" and she's quick to say she has a boyfriend and walks off. I'm not going to lie. This had an effect on me and I really got in my head. It set the tone for the rest of the day. I have to remember, if she'e not going to respond to well then she's not someone you want to be with.
Approach #2: cute blonde
So after a spectacular blowout I decide to leave chaddy to change things up. Again I'm in my head and doing laps around the city. I'm walking along Bourke St mall when I see this cute blonde walking inside Myer so I go after her. She walks back out when I stop her. "I just had to talk to you because you're really beautiful." She's in a hurry to be somewhere and I offer to go with her in which she says no. I think I could hace taken it a step further and asked for the number.
Approach #3: cute brunette
I couldn't get myself to approach any more so I decide to have lunch. I see a few girls walking by at the food court but I figure I'll eat my food. I see a gorgeous brunette in front of my and I'm running all the openers I could run in my head but still I couldn't approach. I finish my lunch and make my way out. As I'm walking out I see a cute brunette go down the escalators. I stop her and open mild direct. She seems very receptive but I had trouble following up. Again seeing as she was in a hurry I should have pressed for a number close.
A few things to remember:
- number close. Take the interaction one step further.
- keep doing what you're doing. You're so close, you don't even realise it.
- blowouts are no reflection of you, just your approach.
More daygame!
25/03/2010: Melbourne CBD
Approach #1: UK blonde hottie
So I'm walking towards Southbank to embark on another bout of daygame. As I'm walking I see a gorgeous blonde walking towards me. I stop her and I open mild direct "I just had to talk to you because you're very beautiful." We have have a quick chat. Turns out she's from the UK and working here as a waitress. I go for the number close but she says she has a boyfriend so is follow up with "we can be best friends." She refuses but I go one step further and ask for her facebook which she happily gives.
Approach #2: Tall, elegant blonde...maybe married?
I went to Crown as I was busting to take a leak. As I was leaving from a distance I see a tall blonde in an elegant black outfit. I was in my head a little bit but then I thought "fuck it" and walked towards her. When I caught up I went mild direct and she just lit up. We had a quick chat. I thought she might have been abit too old and maybe married so I walked off. Turns out she had finished work and is going shopping.
I couldn't get myself to approach anymore. It got to the point where I was doing laps around the city.
A few things to take away:
- again women are giving me something to work with. Listen out for them.
- you have been approaching beautiful women all week. You can do more!
- if she doesn't respond to you well then she isn't smart enough or confident enough to be with you.
Approach #1: UK blonde hottie
So I'm walking towards Southbank to embark on another bout of daygame. As I'm walking I see a gorgeous blonde walking towards me. I stop her and I open mild direct "I just had to talk to you because you're very beautiful." We have have a quick chat. Turns out she's from the UK and working here as a waitress. I go for the number close but she says she has a boyfriend so is follow up with "we can be best friends." She refuses but I go one step further and ask for her facebook which she happily gives.
Approach #2: Tall, elegant blonde...maybe married?
I went to Crown as I was busting to take a leak. As I was leaving from a distance I see a tall blonde in an elegant black outfit. I was in my head a little bit but then I thought "fuck it" and walked towards her. When I caught up I went mild direct and she just lit up. We had a quick chat. I thought she might have been abit too old and maybe married so I walked off. Turns out she had finished work and is going shopping.
I couldn't get myself to approach anymore. It got to the point where I was doing laps around the city.
A few things to take away:
- again women are giving me something to work with. Listen out for them.
- you have been approaching beautiful women all week. You can do more!
- if she doesn't respond to you well then she isn't smart enough or confident enough to be with you.
Thursday, March 25, 2010
On the hunt again...
After the success I had on Tuesday I was looking forward to hitting the streets today and see which women would be lucky enough to have me light up their day :)
24/03/2010: Melbourne CBD
So here I go again, another day in the best city in the world, Melbourne. I have traveled to most of the east half of Australia and no doubt Melbourne has the most beautiful women. Anyway initially I was in my head and very anxious to approach. It got to the point where I started doing laps around the city. I really hate those days. They make you question why you do what you do. Eventually I see a blonde girl walk past me. I didn't see her face but from behind she looked amazing. So off I go...
Approach #1: Okay maybe a bad idea
I went after her with the intention of going direct but once I got her attention I realised she looked old and decided to go indirect. I asked if she could recommend any places to go eat. We have a quick exchange of words before I let her go on her way. It was good to get that out of the way.
Approach #2: What is it with Asian girls?
The past couple of days I have been unsuccessful with girls within a group. This one was no exception. I approach a cute blonde with a mild direct opener "I just had to come talk to you because you're really beautiful." She seem weirded out but we managed to have a quick chat before her friend says "you can go now!" I don't know what it is but it seems like every Asian woman is against me. Okay I accept that you have no interest in hooking up with me but at least give me a chance with someone else who might :)
Approach #3: Stunning brunette in a gorgeous black dress
After a couple of approaches I meet up with my mate from the UK, Steve. We're walking along Swanston St and I spot a beautiful brunette texting on her phone. I approach with my now favourite line "I just had to come talk to you because you're really beautiful." We have an exchange of words. Turns out she's leaving for Perth. I go for the number close. She take my number but she says she'll text me hers. I still haven't heard from her :(
Approach #4: Brunette in a beautiful white dress
I'm walking along Swanston and walking towards me is a stunning brunette in a summery white outfit. Use my usual line again and she's quick to respond "thankyou but I have a boyfriend." In which I reply "great we can be best friends!" She giggles and we part ways.
Approach #5: POW! Blonde hottie!
After a long day Steve and I decide to goto rooftop bar to have a few drinks. As we're walking up there I see a gorgeous blonde across the road. So I go after her with the same mild opener. One thing I've found is when I immediately introduce myself they open up. In this case I didn't and I payed the price. Also didn't conversation wasn't engaging. Maybe I should have pressed for the number just for practice.
Right now it's quite late and I've got work tomorrow. I'll add onto this when I get the chance.
24/03/2010: Melbourne CBD
So here I go again, another day in the best city in the world, Melbourne. I have traveled to most of the east half of Australia and no doubt Melbourne has the most beautiful women. Anyway initially I was in my head and very anxious to approach. It got to the point where I started doing laps around the city. I really hate those days. They make you question why you do what you do. Eventually I see a blonde girl walk past me. I didn't see her face but from behind she looked amazing. So off I go...
Approach #1: Okay maybe a bad idea
I went after her with the intention of going direct but once I got her attention I realised she looked old and decided to go indirect. I asked if she could recommend any places to go eat. We have a quick exchange of words before I let her go on her way. It was good to get that out of the way.
Approach #2: What is it with Asian girls?
The past couple of days I have been unsuccessful with girls within a group. This one was no exception. I approach a cute blonde with a mild direct opener "I just had to come talk to you because you're really beautiful." She seem weirded out but we managed to have a quick chat before her friend says "you can go now!" I don't know what it is but it seems like every Asian woman is against me. Okay I accept that you have no interest in hooking up with me but at least give me a chance with someone else who might :)
Approach #3: Stunning brunette in a gorgeous black dress
After a couple of approaches I meet up with my mate from the UK, Steve. We're walking along Swanston St and I spot a beautiful brunette texting on her phone. I approach with my now favourite line "I just had to come talk to you because you're really beautiful." We have an exchange of words. Turns out she's leaving for Perth. I go for the number close. She take my number but she says she'll text me hers. I still haven't heard from her :(
Approach #4: Brunette in a beautiful white dress
I'm walking along Swanston and walking towards me is a stunning brunette in a summery white outfit. Use my usual line again and she's quick to respond "thankyou but I have a boyfriend." In which I reply "great we can be best friends!" She giggles and we part ways.
Approach #5: POW! Blonde hottie!
After a long day Steve and I decide to goto rooftop bar to have a few drinks. As we're walking up there I see a gorgeous blonde across the road. So I go after her with the same mild opener. One thing I've found is when I immediately introduce myself they open up. In this case I didn't and I payed the price. Also didn't conversation wasn't engaging. Maybe I should have pressed for the number just for practice.
Right now it's quite late and I've got work tomorrow. I'll add onto this when I get the chance.
Tuesday, March 23, 2010
Here we go again...
23/03/2010: Chaddy/Melbourne CBD
After the disappointment in the quality of approaches yesterday I decided to cut down the number of approaches to something more manageable (5). That way I could focus more on the quality of interactions rather than just racking up the numbers.
Approach #1: stunning brunette in a very elegant outfit
I had abit of time on my hands before I had to go to a meeting later in the day so I thought I goto Chaddy and get some approaches down. As soon as I walked into the shopping centre I was already getting in my head. Stunner after stunner would walk past me and I could not get myself to approach. So I figure I leave and make my way to the meeting.
As I am leaving I see this beautiful brunette walk towards me and I could say almost automatically I opened direct. "I know this is kind of random but I had to talk to you because you are very beautiful." She lights up with a beaming smile and we have a quick chat. She mentioned she worked in real estate and I was quick to follow up with "so what would your dream house look like?" We continue some friendly banter and I go for the number close. A little hesitant at first but then she happily gives it to me. I leave with this feeling in my stomach. Really weird but I have to say I was feeling awesome :)
Approach #2: gorgeous French blonde
So I had finished my meeting and I head to the CBD to get the rest of my approaches down. I walking along Southbank and I walk past this beautiful blonde girl wandering around. She seems lost. I continue to walk but then I think to myself "fuck it!" and go after her. I catch up to her and again I open direct. "I know this is kind of random but I had to talk to you because you are very beautiful." She's very receptive and I notice she has an accent. She's from France and is looking for work. We talk about the comparisons between France and Melbourne and then she asks me if I know any places which sell cheap food. I try go for the instadate but she has to meet up with friends. I get her number and offer to show her a few neat places around melbourne. 2/2! This is too good to be true.
Approach #3: mother and daughter...whoops! wrong one!
I'll be quick on this. Two blondes I went for the older one. Bombed out! haha
Approach #4: cute blonde with a friend
Direct approach. Conversation didn't really go anywhere. My use of conversational transitions could have been better. What adventures have you been upto today? This may have got a better response rather than "How has your day been?" I go for the number close though whether I got the number or not it was quite a weak interaction.
Approach #5: the most amazing blonde I've seen all day.
I'm walking along Elizabeth St and look across the road and see an amazing blonde walk the other way. I turn back and cross the road and catch up to her. "I know this is kind of random but I had to talk to you because you are very beautiful." She instantly lights up and we get into some friendly banter. She's very receptive and I go for the number. Turns out she has a boyfriend. So I gracefully part ways with her.
Things to take away:
- "I know this is kind of random but I had to talk to you because you are very beautiful." Works really well.
- Find some ways to approach mixed sets.
- I think this is the best I have done on my own so pat on the back.
- Need to polish my closing
- I'm getting alot better at this :)
After the disappointment in the quality of approaches yesterday I decided to cut down the number of approaches to something more manageable (5). That way I could focus more on the quality of interactions rather than just racking up the numbers.
Approach #1: stunning brunette in a very elegant outfit
I had abit of time on my hands before I had to go to a meeting later in the day so I thought I goto Chaddy and get some approaches down. As soon as I walked into the shopping centre I was already getting in my head. Stunner after stunner would walk past me and I could not get myself to approach. So I figure I leave and make my way to the meeting.
As I am leaving I see this beautiful brunette walk towards me and I could say almost automatically I opened direct. "I know this is kind of random but I had to talk to you because you are very beautiful." She lights up with a beaming smile and we have a quick chat. She mentioned she worked in real estate and I was quick to follow up with "so what would your dream house look like?" We continue some friendly banter and I go for the number close. A little hesitant at first but then she happily gives it to me. I leave with this feeling in my stomach. Really weird but I have to say I was feeling awesome :)
Approach #2: gorgeous French blonde
So I had finished my meeting and I head to the CBD to get the rest of my approaches down. I walking along Southbank and I walk past this beautiful blonde girl wandering around. She seems lost. I continue to walk but then I think to myself "fuck it!" and go after her. I catch up to her and again I open direct. "I know this is kind of random but I had to talk to you because you are very beautiful." She's very receptive and I notice she has an accent. She's from France and is looking for work. We talk about the comparisons between France and Melbourne and then she asks me if I know any places which sell cheap food. I try go for the instadate but she has to meet up with friends. I get her number and offer to show her a few neat places around melbourne. 2/2! This is too good to be true.
Approach #3: mother and daughter...whoops! wrong one!
I'll be quick on this. Two blondes I went for the older one. Bombed out! haha
Approach #4: cute blonde with a friend
Direct approach. Conversation didn't really go anywhere. My use of conversational transitions could have been better. What adventures have you been upto today? This may have got a better response rather than "How has your day been?" I go for the number close though whether I got the number or not it was quite a weak interaction.
Approach #5: the most amazing blonde I've seen all day.
I'm walking along Elizabeth St and look across the road and see an amazing blonde walk the other way. I turn back and cross the road and catch up to her. "I know this is kind of random but I had to talk to you because you are very beautiful." She instantly lights up and we get into some friendly banter. She's very receptive and I go for the number. Turns out she has a boyfriend. So I gracefully part ways with her.
Things to take away:
- "I know this is kind of random but I had to talk to you because you are very beautiful." Works really well.
- Find some ways to approach mixed sets.
- I think this is the best I have done on my own so pat on the back.
- Need to polish my closing
- I'm getting alot better at this :)
Monday, March 22, 2010
City Blitz...well maybe not...
22/03/2010: Melbourne CBD
On Sunday I had attended the Approch Energy class. A practical workshop focused on seduction. In the workshop we focused on opening, some basic conversation and getting the number. After the class I thought back to the two interactions I had at Knox shopping centre and found some ways I could have taken the interaction further. Today I was really excited and I wanted to try some of my new skills out. I also wrote down and told myself I was going to do 10 approaches. So off to the city I go.
Approach #1: Blonde cutie from New Zealand
As I'm walking along Southbank I had already past some gorgeous women and I'm thinking "quick approach! quick approach someone!". Thinking this may turn out to be one of those days I do laps around the city without an approach a gorgeous blonde is walking towards me and I stop her.
"I know this is out of the blue but you're gorgeous I had to come over and say hi"
She acknowledges and starts to walk off so I walk with her (one of the things I learnt from the approach energy class). Turns out she's from New Zealand, going shopping and she's on her own.
From there I could have done more. She had given me some information to work with. She's travelling. Is she here for adventure? How does Melbourne compare to New Zealand?... Shopping. Anything in particular? I could have gone on a tangent on fashion. Window shopping. Dreamer. She is on her own...acknowledge it. It's amazing how she's travelled on her own. It must take alot of courage. When you are out of your comfort zone, this is where you start to find more about yourself. This is where I'm starting to find out about myself.
Approach #2: two blondes from England
I approach who I thought was the cute one with the same direct approach. We had what I thought was an awkward interaction and also tried to get her friend involved who was alot cuter. I go for a number close but they weren't interested. Again I had alot to work with here. Both are overseas. Both are here together. I need to get out of my head and start being more aware of what is being given to me.
Approach #3: gorgeous brunette in summery outfit
I'm walking along Swanston St and I see a gorgeous brunette in a flowy dress. I start going after her and I comment her on her outfit. She's in a hurry so I decide to go with her. She goes to uni...there's something to use there. I go for the close but she says she has a boyfriend. I go one step further and say we can be best friends which gets a quick laugh. She still not interested so we part ways.
I think so far I have been maybe talking too fast. I need to slow the interaction down to my pace. I think this will allow me to work some magic.
Approach #4: blonde waiting at the traffic light
I'm waiting at the traffic lights and a blonde stops next to me. I come over and ask "how's your day been?" she lights up with a smile and she says great. We have a quick exchange before she walks off. She's working today. I could have used that and weather. Weather is a great conversational survival topic. I'm going to use it abit more. We'll alot more.
Approach #5: bitchy brunette
I'm about to approach halftime so I figure I need a buzzer beater. I see a slim cute brunette walk by so I go direct. She doesn't give me the time of day and walks off. Thankyou! I know you're not the type of person I want to be with :)
Approach #6: brunette with a white flowy top
I'm walking along Collins St towards Elizabeth and I see a stunning brunette in a summery outfit walk past. I turn into Collins and go after her. When I catch upto her I comment on her outfit. She opens up and we exchange quick banter before she walks off. She works as a telemarketer...I could have done abit more with that.
So far a common theme has been work. Where can I go with this? Time of day. Weather. Some little things I can do in the day to take the interaction abit further and find something I can connect with abit quicker.
Approach #7: tall gorgeous blonde in hot pants!
I'm walking across the road when this gorgeous blonde walks past. I turn around and open direct and she walks off. I think I could have done alot more to push the interaction further. I could have continued to walk with her and continued talking.
Approach #8: two girls seem good from afar
Well that wasn't the case when I got closer. I opened with "do I look gay?" We had a quick chat and they walked off. I don't think this should count because I wasn't putting my skills in to practice.
A few things to take away:
- Slow the interaction down. I think I will be able to work better and think on my feet when I'm interacting at my pace.
- Go one step further. Just as you're about to lose the set do something to try continue it.
- Work was a common theme today. I need to think of ways to use it to my advantage
- I think I shouldn't go for such a high target just yet as I think I'm just focused on just approaching alone and not taking the interaction further. If I cut down my target to say five I think I'll be more focused on having quality interactions.
- It wasn't my best day and nothing bad came out of it. Just experiences that I can learn from and use to make be better.
- I'm as good as I can be in this moment. I expect nothing more or nothing less. Every failure is a brick in my palace.
On Sunday I had attended the Approch Energy class. A practical workshop focused on seduction. In the workshop we focused on opening, some basic conversation and getting the number. After the class I thought back to the two interactions I had at Knox shopping centre and found some ways I could have taken the interaction further. Today I was really excited and I wanted to try some of my new skills out. I also wrote down and told myself I was going to do 10 approaches. So off to the city I go.
Approach #1: Blonde cutie from New Zealand
As I'm walking along Southbank I had already past some gorgeous women and I'm thinking "quick approach! quick approach someone!". Thinking this may turn out to be one of those days I do laps around the city without an approach a gorgeous blonde is walking towards me and I stop her.
"I know this is out of the blue but you're gorgeous I had to come over and say hi"
She acknowledges and starts to walk off so I walk with her (one of the things I learnt from the approach energy class). Turns out she's from New Zealand, going shopping and she's on her own.
From there I could have done more. She had given me some information to work with. She's travelling. Is she here for adventure? How does Melbourne compare to New Zealand?... Shopping. Anything in particular? I could have gone on a tangent on fashion. Window shopping. Dreamer. She is on her own...acknowledge it. It's amazing how she's travelled on her own. It must take alot of courage. When you are out of your comfort zone, this is where you start to find more about yourself. This is where I'm starting to find out about myself.
Approach #2: two blondes from England
I approach who I thought was the cute one with the same direct approach. We had what I thought was an awkward interaction and also tried to get her friend involved who was alot cuter. I go for a number close but they weren't interested. Again I had alot to work with here. Both are overseas. Both are here together. I need to get out of my head and start being more aware of what is being given to me.
Approach #3: gorgeous brunette in summery outfit
I'm walking along Swanston St and I see a gorgeous brunette in a flowy dress. I start going after her and I comment her on her outfit. She's in a hurry so I decide to go with her. She goes to uni...there's something to use there. I go for the close but she says she has a boyfriend. I go one step further and say we can be best friends which gets a quick laugh. She still not interested so we part ways.
I think so far I have been maybe talking too fast. I need to slow the interaction down to my pace. I think this will allow me to work some magic.
Approach #4: blonde waiting at the traffic light
I'm waiting at the traffic lights and a blonde stops next to me. I come over and ask "how's your day been?" she lights up with a smile and she says great. We have a quick exchange before she walks off. She's working today. I could have used that and weather. Weather is a great conversational survival topic. I'm going to use it abit more. We'll alot more.
Approach #5: bitchy brunette
I'm about to approach halftime so I figure I need a buzzer beater. I see a slim cute brunette walk by so I go direct. She doesn't give me the time of day and walks off. Thankyou! I know you're not the type of person I want to be with :)
Approach #6: brunette with a white flowy top
I'm walking along Collins St towards Elizabeth and I see a stunning brunette in a summery outfit walk past. I turn into Collins and go after her. When I catch upto her I comment on her outfit. She opens up and we exchange quick banter before she walks off. She works as a telemarketer...I could have done abit more with that.
So far a common theme has been work. Where can I go with this? Time of day. Weather. Some little things I can do in the day to take the interaction abit further and find something I can connect with abit quicker.
Approach #7: tall gorgeous blonde in hot pants!
I'm walking across the road when this gorgeous blonde walks past. I turn around and open direct and she walks off. I think I could have done alot more to push the interaction further. I could have continued to walk with her and continued talking.
Approach #8: two girls seem good from afar
Well that wasn't the case when I got closer. I opened with "do I look gay?" We had a quick chat and they walked off. I don't think this should count because I wasn't putting my skills in to practice.
A few things to take away:
- Slow the interaction down. I think I will be able to work better and think on my feet when I'm interacting at my pace.
- Go one step further. Just as you're about to lose the set do something to try continue it.
- Work was a common theme today. I need to think of ways to use it to my advantage
- I think I shouldn't go for such a high target just yet as I think I'm just focused on just approaching alone and not taking the interaction further. If I cut down my target to say five I think I'll be more focused on having quality interactions.
- It wasn't my best day and nothing bad came out of it. Just experiences that I can learn from and use to make be better.
- I'm as good as I can be in this moment. I expect nothing more or nothing less. Every failure is a brick in my palace.
Friday, March 19, 2010
My clothes are ruined! Day Game!
19/03/2010 Knox Shopping Centre
Here's my situation. Someone was stupid enough to put bleach in the washing machine and as a result ruined my clothes. So it was off to the shopping mall for some new threads. I had a $100 Myer gift card given to me by my uncle and auntie for my birthday so I thought I goto Myer and have a look. I stroll around the men's section and nothing really caught my eye, clothes or women, so I leave to check other stores. As I am leaving I see a gorgeous blonde walking along. And so it begins...
Approach #1: Super hot blonde in hot pants!
I felt that my success rate with opening direct has been pretty low so I looked back to the times I was successful with opening direct. I would always open with "you look stunning I had to come over and say hi" which would make a woman light up but then they would walk off. I found in my successful direct pickups, I followed up with something like "I was just wondering around and when I saw you I just had to meet you". From there I would transition to normal conversation and get the number close.
Today I thought I try something I got from Natural Tim from RSD. It goes along the lines of:
"My day couldn't continue unless I came over and talked to you"
(Response)
"I was minding my own business and then I saw you and I thought WOW! I have to meet this girl...My name is Khoi"
We had a quick chat but she was in a hurry and walked off. I think next time I'll try "You look stunning I had to come talk to you" then follow up with "I was minding my own business and then I saw you and I thought WOW! I have to meet this girl...My name is Khoi".
Approach #2: Roger David girls (this may not count but I thought it was worthy to mention)
I walk into Roger David and have a stroll and I say hi to one of the sales girls (I'll call her #1). She asks if I was looking for anything and I tell her about what happened to my clothes. I made light of it saying it was terrible for me but awesome for her. So we go through a number of different shirts and exchange playful banter. Then another assistant comes in (#2, cute brunette with short hair) and assists me and joins in the fun.
#2 picks out a shirt for me and I try it on. I tell her it looks a little gay on me and playfully tease her and she seems to respond well. Once trying a number of shirts we lay the shirts out on the counter and the 3 of us look at my option. I continue to banter with them. I picked out two shirts and asked the girls to put them on hold while I check out other stores.
I went past a few men's clothing stores and found that the shirts were a little too loud for me. I went to YD to have a quick browse and had a chat with the store girl but found her to be abit of a bimbo so I head back to Roger David to get my shirts.
When I come back, #2 was in the store on her own. As I pay for my shirt she says she recognises me from somewhere and I asks if she goes out often. She says she like to goto classy places. I say I regularly goto Spice Market which she too goes to. She gives me my shopping bag and I take the interaction abit further by asking what she has planned for the rest of the day. I then make a warm read saying she does her job part time while she's studying. I turn out to be wrong but then she opens up about how she's travelled and she says that she's working until she's old enough to join the police force and it's something she's always wanted to do. She also talks about how her father sent her to travel Europe when she was 15 for a whole year and that blew me away. As I began to feel a connection was being built I started to think as to whether or not I should get her number. Then a guy she knew came in and I wimped out.
I guess this was worth mentioning as I felt I was putting alot of the conversation skills I have been working on to practice and I really enjoyed participating in the interaction. It shows me what could be possible if I continue to practice my conversation skills regularly. It also gives me a reminder of why I do what I do and that can only be a good thing.
A few things to take away:
- I might have come across as a little to threatening when I approached the hot blonde direct.
- keep listening out for cues. I'm only gonna get better.
Here's my situation. Someone was stupid enough to put bleach in the washing machine and as a result ruined my clothes. So it was off to the shopping mall for some new threads. I had a $100 Myer gift card given to me by my uncle and auntie for my birthday so I thought I goto Myer and have a look. I stroll around the men's section and nothing really caught my eye, clothes or women, so I leave to check other stores. As I am leaving I see a gorgeous blonde walking along. And so it begins...
Approach #1: Super hot blonde in hot pants!
I felt that my success rate with opening direct has been pretty low so I looked back to the times I was successful with opening direct. I would always open with "you look stunning I had to come over and say hi" which would make a woman light up but then they would walk off. I found in my successful direct pickups, I followed up with something like "I was just wondering around and when I saw you I just had to meet you". From there I would transition to normal conversation and get the number close.
Today I thought I try something I got from Natural Tim from RSD. It goes along the lines of:
"My day couldn't continue unless I came over and talked to you"
(Response)
"I was minding my own business and then I saw you and I thought WOW! I have to meet this girl...My name is Khoi"
We had a quick chat but she was in a hurry and walked off. I think next time I'll try "You look stunning I had to come talk to you" then follow up with "I was minding my own business and then I saw you and I thought WOW! I have to meet this girl...My name is Khoi".
Approach #2: Roger David girls (this may not count but I thought it was worthy to mention)
I walk into Roger David and have a stroll and I say hi to one of the sales girls (I'll call her #1). She asks if I was looking for anything and I tell her about what happened to my clothes. I made light of it saying it was terrible for me but awesome for her. So we go through a number of different shirts and exchange playful banter. Then another assistant comes in (#2, cute brunette with short hair) and assists me and joins in the fun.
#2 picks out a shirt for me and I try it on. I tell her it looks a little gay on me and playfully tease her and she seems to respond well. Once trying a number of shirts we lay the shirts out on the counter and the 3 of us look at my option. I continue to banter with them. I picked out two shirts and asked the girls to put them on hold while I check out other stores.
I went past a few men's clothing stores and found that the shirts were a little too loud for me. I went to YD to have a quick browse and had a chat with the store girl but found her to be abit of a bimbo so I head back to Roger David to get my shirts.
When I come back, #2 was in the store on her own. As I pay for my shirt she says she recognises me from somewhere and I asks if she goes out often. She says she like to goto classy places. I say I regularly goto Spice Market which she too goes to. She gives me my shopping bag and I take the interaction abit further by asking what she has planned for the rest of the day. I then make a warm read saying she does her job part time while she's studying. I turn out to be wrong but then she opens up about how she's travelled and she says that she's working until she's old enough to join the police force and it's something she's always wanted to do. She also talks about how her father sent her to travel Europe when she was 15 for a whole year and that blew me away. As I began to feel a connection was being built I started to think as to whether or not I should get her number. Then a guy she knew came in and I wimped out.
I guess this was worth mentioning as I felt I was putting alot of the conversation skills I have been working on to practice and I really enjoyed participating in the interaction. It shows me what could be possible if I continue to practice my conversation skills regularly. It also gives me a reminder of why I do what I do and that can only be a good thing.
A few things to take away:
- I might have come across as a little to threatening when I approached the hot blonde direct.
- keep listening out for cues. I'm only gonna get better.
Tuesday, March 16, 2010
Day game...I hate it!... But I'm learning to love it.
I hate day game with a passion. Unlike the night where the volume of gorgeous woman is higher, in the day they seem far and few between. Because of this I seem to have more time to get in my head and negative thoughts start building up and I lose the confidence to approach. At night if I fail with one woman I know there's another one within a few steps in reach.
Day game is something I want to develop because I feel I don't see myself going to clubs week-in, week-out for anytime longer. I also feel my ideal woman isn't partying it up in the bars and clubs of Melbourne. She is going about her normal daily routine in the hope that an amazing man will come over and sweep her off her feet. Chances are that it won't happen for most of these women. This is where I come in :)
I'm writing this post to monitor my progress with meeting women in the day. I hope to be able to pick up on some patterns over time which will help me be more successful with women.
17/03/2010 Melbourne CBD
Approach #1: petite brunette with a summery outfit.
I approached her directly with "I thought you looked really cute. I had to come over and say hi." She seemed a little flustered as if she had never been approached during the day before.
We have a little banter and then go I for the number close. She seems happy to exchange details and we go our merry ways. I didn't feel there was enough connection to see this going any further but we'll see what happens.
Approach #2: two girls, one of them a super hot blonde.
I approached the friends asking if I could borrow her for a second. I go direct on the blonde and she seemed to have lit up and was lost for words. We have a quick chat and I go for the number close. She says she has a boyfriend and so I keep chatting and then we part ways.
Approach #3: two girls sitting on the grass.
I sit down in front of them and pretend I'm waiting for someone. I turn over my shoulder and open indirectly. We have a quick chat and then they seem to have lost interest and started talking amongst themselves.
I asked for their recommendations for a place to drink. I could have used that as an opportunity to connect with them. "I take it you guys are the party type..." They were also students. I could have used that abit more effectively.
Approach #4: stunning dress though good from a far, but far from a good.
Walking along Swanston St and I see a blonde wearing vivid blue dress across the road. I walk over to her and say "you seem lost" and pointing to papers she was holding. At this point I realised she didn't look as good close up (I need to get my eyes checked). We have a quick chat before she walks off.
I struggled to build a connection. I could have done alot more.
Approach #5: tall gorgeous blonde.
I approach direct with "I think you're gorgeous, I had to come over and say hi". She says "thankyou" and walks off.
I should have stood more in front of her leaving less room to move so that I could continue the interaction.
Approach #6: cute blonde...well I can't really remember actually.
I approach direct and she does not give me the time of day and walks through me. Ouch! Probably could have positioned myself better to stop her but with that kind of reaction I don't think she's the type of person I want to be with.
A few things to remember:
- Position myself appropriately when approaching so that they stop.
- Listen out for cues. Women are always giving me something to work with.
Day game is something I want to develop because I feel I don't see myself going to clubs week-in, week-out for anytime longer. I also feel my ideal woman isn't partying it up in the bars and clubs of Melbourne. She is going about her normal daily routine in the hope that an amazing man will come over and sweep her off her feet. Chances are that it won't happen for most of these women. This is where I come in :)
I'm writing this post to monitor my progress with meeting women in the day. I hope to be able to pick up on some patterns over time which will help me be more successful with women.
17/03/2010 Melbourne CBD
Approach #1: petite brunette with a summery outfit.
I approached her directly with "I thought you looked really cute. I had to come over and say hi." She seemed a little flustered as if she had never been approached during the day before.
We have a little banter and then go I for the number close. She seems happy to exchange details and we go our merry ways. I didn't feel there was enough connection to see this going any further but we'll see what happens.
Approach #2: two girls, one of them a super hot blonde.
I approached the friends asking if I could borrow her for a second. I go direct on the blonde and she seemed to have lit up and was lost for words. We have a quick chat and I go for the number close. She says she has a boyfriend and so I keep chatting and then we part ways.
Approach #3: two girls sitting on the grass.
I sit down in front of them and pretend I'm waiting for someone. I turn over my shoulder and open indirectly. We have a quick chat and then they seem to have lost interest and started talking amongst themselves.
I asked for their recommendations for a place to drink. I could have used that as an opportunity to connect with them. "I take it you guys are the party type..." They were also students. I could have used that abit more effectively.
Approach #4: stunning dress though good from a far, but far from a good.
Walking along Swanston St and I see a blonde wearing vivid blue dress across the road. I walk over to her and say "you seem lost" and pointing to papers she was holding. At this point I realised she didn't look as good close up (I need to get my eyes checked). We have a quick chat before she walks off.
I struggled to build a connection. I could have done alot more.
Approach #5: tall gorgeous blonde.
I approach direct with "I think you're gorgeous, I had to come over and say hi". She says "thankyou" and walks off.
I should have stood more in front of her leaving less room to move so that I could continue the interaction.
Approach #6: cute blonde...well I can't really remember actually.
I approach direct and she does not give me the time of day and walks through me. Ouch! Probably could have positioned myself better to stop her but with that kind of reaction I don't think she's the type of person I want to be with.
A few things to remember:
- Position myself appropriately when approaching so that they stop.
- Listen out for cues. Women are always giving me something to work with.
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