I love trance music. The way it bottles up my emotions and takes it on a ride. It is like the soundtrack of my life. It starts off slow but uplifting and strong in the end. I feel this is the direction my life is headed.
In the last few weeks I have been feeling down. May it be due to a slowdown in progress? Perhaps. It has made me feel useless. I find I am doubting myself. I feel like I don't deserve the success that I have achieved and as a result I find myself sabotaging myself. Pusing away people who care about me and attracting those who don't serve me. I have made some positive changes recently and yet there is a part of me which wants me to fuck it up.
There is something about trance music which changes my mood. There's like a tingle which goes through my spine when I listen to the music. I tend to listen to more melodic trance it seems to lift my mood. Telling me everything is gonna be ok.
I have spent the last few days looking for inspiration. I have found it in trance music. I have found it in the people who have become my close friends. I have found it in the people I admire. I have found it in the journals I have read in all stars.
I'm not feeling on top of the world but I know these feelings will pass. I have learned not to fight what I am feeling and embrace it. It has allowed me to love and accept myself more. I recognise that I am human and it is OK to feel the way I am.
Sunday, September 26, 2010
Saturday, September 25, 2010
Daily Coaching Saturday
1. What will help you better understand your current situation?
Journaling my current feelings. Giving myself time to think things through.
2. What is important when it comes to motivating yourself?
Don't push myself over the edge.
3. How do you feel when you know exactly what you want?
Inquisitive. I want to find out what it takes to get it.
4. What do you want? How will you know exactly when you have got it, what will you see?
I want a life where I am having an effect on the lives of others. I know I'll have it when I feel I am no longer feel the need to invest so much in myself as I am living the life I dream of.
5. Looking back having already achieved your goals, what do you know?
I am a person who can set goals and achieve them.
6. How do you want to be recognized?
As a person who gives value to others and inspires other to be amazing.
7. What do you do to slow your progress?
Self-sabbotage. I take too much on board.
8. How have you transformed this week?
Not quite. I'm on the cusp.
9. Would you date yourself? (yes/no) why?
Yes. I am a man on a journey. I have goals and dreams. I inspire people and give value to others. I am confident, funny, quirky, stylish and god damn sexy!
10. What is at your core?
At my core I am a man on my journey of self-discovery.
Journaling my current feelings. Giving myself time to think things through.
2. What is important when it comes to motivating yourself?
Don't push myself over the edge.
3. How do you feel when you know exactly what you want?
Inquisitive. I want to find out what it takes to get it.
4. What do you want? How will you know exactly when you have got it, what will you see?
I want a life where I am having an effect on the lives of others. I know I'll have it when I feel I am no longer feel the need to invest so much in myself as I am living the life I dream of.
5. Looking back having already achieved your goals, what do you know?
I am a person who can set goals and achieve them.
6. How do you want to be recognized?
As a person who gives value to others and inspires other to be amazing.
7. What do you do to slow your progress?
Self-sabbotage. I take too much on board.
8. How have you transformed this week?
Not quite. I'm on the cusp.
9. Would you date yourself? (yes/no) why?
Yes. I am a man on a journey. I have goals and dreams. I inspire people and give value to others. I am confident, funny, quirky, stylish and god damn sexy!
10. What is at your core?
At my core I am a man on my journey of self-discovery.
Daily Coaching Friday
1. Where is your self-esteem at the moment?
I think it's pretty good when thinking about it in the distance but no so much in the moment.
2. What can you learn from the bad stuff in your life so it never happens again?
Tough times don't last. Tough people do.
3. What do I need to do to get better at (insert specific ares)?
Women. Reference experiences. I need to find ways to meet more women. I have booked in for speed dating and I am dabbling at online dating.
Money. Monitor my daily spending habits. Spend time with people who aren't crazy with their money. Talk to people who are good with money.
Health. Get back to the gym. Eat right.
4. What is (insert name) doing to achieve things and how can I replicate them?
5. How can I achieve more with less effort?
6. What am I going to do to enjoy my day today?
I watched inspirational videos.
7. How good do I want to get at this, and how can I get there at in the quickest and most fun way?
Be around fun people. Being smart with the actions I take.
8. What do you have to do to increase productivity whilst having more fun?
Give myself more time to rest and reflect.
9. What is a question that would be good to ask yourself?
What do you want?
10. Of all the benefits of doing All Stars which is the biggest to you?
Hearing the stories of where people came from and how they have come to be now.
I think it's pretty good when thinking about it in the distance but no so much in the moment.
2. What can you learn from the bad stuff in your life so it never happens again?
Tough times don't last. Tough people do.
3. What do I need to do to get better at (insert specific ares)?
Women. Reference experiences. I need to find ways to meet more women. I have booked in for speed dating and I am dabbling at online dating.
Money. Monitor my daily spending habits. Spend time with people who aren't crazy with their money. Talk to people who are good with money.
Health. Get back to the gym. Eat right.
4. What is (insert name) doing to achieve things and how can I replicate them?
5. How can I achieve more with less effort?
6. What am I going to do to enjoy my day today?
I watched inspirational videos.
7. How good do I want to get at this, and how can I get there at in the quickest and most fun way?
Be around fun people. Being smart with the actions I take.
8. What do you have to do to increase productivity whilst having more fun?
Give myself more time to rest and reflect.
9. What is a question that would be good to ask yourself?
What do you want?
10. Of all the benefits of doing All Stars which is the biggest to you?
Hearing the stories of where people came from and how they have come to be now.
Thursday, September 23, 2010
What did I forget today? 23/09/2010
1. Did I forget to be happy?
No. I spent time with friends, arranged a date with a cute girl, created some inspirational reminders on my phone.
2. Did I forget negative feelings like hatred, resentment, frustration?
No. At work there are times when I deal with people I don't like and automatically it triggers me to act in a negative way.
3. Did I forget to rise above my mistakes of yesterday?
No.
4. Did I forget to be compassionate?
Yes.
5. Did I forget to be self-confident?
No. I felt comfortable in my own skin.
6. Did I forget to be myself and try to be someone else?
No. I felt I was putting myself out there today.
7. Did I forget that I am creative and can improve my self-image through the power of my imagination?
No. I was being creative in the way I am being inspired.
8. Did I forget to relax and improve my self-image?
No.
No. I spent time with friends, arranged a date with a cute girl, created some inspirational reminders on my phone.
2. Did I forget negative feelings like hatred, resentment, frustration?
No. At work there are times when I deal with people I don't like and automatically it triggers me to act in a negative way.
3. Did I forget to rise above my mistakes of yesterday?
No.
4. Did I forget to be compassionate?
Yes.
5. Did I forget to be self-confident?
No. I felt comfortable in my own skin.
6. Did I forget to be myself and try to be someone else?
No. I felt I was putting myself out there today.
7. Did I forget that I am creative and can improve my self-image through the power of my imagination?
No. I was being creative in the way I am being inspired.
8. Did I forget to relax and improve my self-image?
No.
Daily Coaching Thursday
1. How can you turn your problems around and immediately enjoy the process?
Accepting there is a problem and take small steps towards changing.
2. Has there ever been a time you felt a lot of freedom? Describe what it was like.
I don't think there was a time I was entirely free though there were times I had glimpses of what is possible. It gave me a sense of hope that great things are to come.
3. What is just outside your comfort zone?
In terms of pick-up, showing my intent. Some days I am a person who does it other days I'm scared of what girls will think. In other areas of my life, asking people for help, saying "no" when people ask me to do things which don't serve me.
4. If you were your own coach, what 5 tips would you give yourself?
- The world sees you as this confident, funny, sexy guy. Believe you are too.
- Don't be afraid to express yourself.
- Take baby steps instead of taking huge giant steps. You're only going to set yourself up for failure.
5. Are you happy? Give a score out of 10. How could you increase that score?
I would say I am a 6. Taking the time to do things I enjoy, giving myself some space to reflect.
6. Google “The Emotional Guidance Scale? Where are you on it right now?
13. Doubt
7. Youtube a motivational video – what do you find? Post the link.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=VkCFeNeqyHk
8. Which celebrity do you most identify with, and why?
Ben Cousins. Troubled and misunderstood.
9. What could you try now if you knew you couldn’t fail?
Chasing models, training muay thai, become a DJ, learn the guitar, speak Spanish, learn salsa.
10. What might it be useful to believe?
Anything is possible.
Accepting there is a problem and take small steps towards changing.
2. Has there ever been a time you felt a lot of freedom? Describe what it was like.
I don't think there was a time I was entirely free though there were times I had glimpses of what is possible. It gave me a sense of hope that great things are to come.
3. What is just outside your comfort zone?
In terms of pick-up, showing my intent. Some days I am a person who does it other days I'm scared of what girls will think. In other areas of my life, asking people for help, saying "no" when people ask me to do things which don't serve me.
4. If you were your own coach, what 5 tips would you give yourself?
- The world sees you as this confident, funny, sexy guy. Believe you are too.
- Don't be afraid to express yourself.
- Take baby steps instead of taking huge giant steps. You're only going to set yourself up for failure.
5. Are you happy? Give a score out of 10. How could you increase that score?
I would say I am a 6. Taking the time to do things I enjoy, giving myself some space to reflect.
6. Google “The Emotional Guidance Scale? Where are you on it right now?
13. Doubt
7. Youtube a motivational video – what do you find? Post the link.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=VkCFeNeqyHk
8. Which celebrity do you most identify with, and why?
Ben Cousins. Troubled and misunderstood.
9. What could you try now if you knew you couldn’t fail?
Chasing models, training muay thai, become a DJ, learn the guitar, speak Spanish, learn salsa.
10. What might it be useful to believe?
Anything is possible.
Wednesday, September 22, 2010
What did I forget today? 22/09/2010
1. Did I forget to be happy?
Not really. I was in the company of friends who make me feel happy.
2. Did I forget negative feelings like hatred, resentment, frustration?
Yes
3. Did I forget to rise above my mistakes of yesterday?
No. I wouldn't call it a mistake. I would call it a realisation.
4. Did I forget to be compassionate?
Yes.
5. Did I forget to be self-confident?
No. I felt comfortable in my own skin.
6. Did I forget to be myself and try to be someone else?
No. I felt I was putting myself out there today.
7. Did I forget that I am creative and can improve my self-image through the power of my imagination?
Yes
8. Did I forget to relax and improve my self-image?
Yes
Not really. I was in the company of friends who make me feel happy.
2. Did I forget negative feelings like hatred, resentment, frustration?
Yes
3. Did I forget to rise above my mistakes of yesterday?
No. I wouldn't call it a mistake. I would call it a realisation.
4. Did I forget to be compassionate?
Yes.
5. Did I forget to be self-confident?
No. I felt comfortable in my own skin.
6. Did I forget to be myself and try to be someone else?
No. I felt I was putting myself out there today.
7. Did I forget that I am creative and can improve my self-image through the power of my imagination?
Yes
8. Did I forget to relax and improve my self-image?
Yes
What did I forget today? 21/09/2010
1. Did I forget to be happy?
Yes. Though I did have moments of amusement.
2. Did I forget negative feelings like hatred, resentment, frustration?
Probably doubt.
3. Did I forget to rise above my mistakes of yesterday?
Yes.
4. Did I forget to be compassionate?
Yes. I feel there are times where I don't give people a chance.
5. Did I forget to be self-confident?
No. I have a need to conduct myself confidently all the time.
6. Did I forget to be myself and try to be someone else?
At times yes. Usually at work.
7. Did I forget that I am creative and can improve my self-image through the power of my imagination?
Yes
8. Did I forget to relax and improve my self-image?
Yes
Yes. Though I did have moments of amusement.
2. Did I forget negative feelings like hatred, resentment, frustration?
Probably doubt.
3. Did I forget to rise above my mistakes of yesterday?
Yes.
4. Did I forget to be compassionate?
Yes. I feel there are times where I don't give people a chance.
5. Did I forget to be self-confident?
No. I have a need to conduct myself confidently all the time.
6. Did I forget to be myself and try to be someone else?
At times yes. Usually at work.
7. Did I forget that I am creative and can improve my self-image through the power of my imagination?
Yes
8. Did I forget to relax and improve my self-image?
Yes
Why do I like myself?
- I am confident
- Women find me sexy
- I am ambitious
- I always look for something better
- I am friendly
- I always put others first
- I am always looking to develop myself
- I am resilient
- I am unique
- I have something to share with others
- I am a deep thinker
- I am sexy
- I am stylish
- I am quirky
- I am funny
- I inspire others
- I am determined
- I am resilient
- I am creative
- I am loving
- I am evolving to something amazing
- I have my fears and I am not the only one
- I regularly go out of my comfort zone
- Women find me sexy
- I am ambitious
- I always look for something better
- I am friendly
- I always put others first
- I am always looking to develop myself
- I am resilient
- I am unique
- I have something to share with others
- I am a deep thinker
- I am sexy
- I am stylish
- I am quirky
- I am funny
- I inspire others
- I am determined
- I am resilient
- I am creative
- I am loving
- I am evolving to something amazing
- I have my fears and I am not the only one
- I regularly go out of my comfort zone
Tuesday, September 21, 2010
Daily Coaching Wednesday
1. What is the most resourceful state for you to be in right now as you go about your day?
Low energy, chilled, relaxed
2. What is it time to stop doing?
Procastinating and put things into action.
3. What will absolutely motivate you to do take twice your normal daily amount of action today?
Money, women, food, clothes and a sexy body.
4. How will you feel when you smash your effort and results today?
Fucking awesome!
5. What needs to happen for you to have inner peace?
Time to myself to reflect, relax and gather my thoughts.
6. What will your life be like when you master your use of time?
I''ll have the freedom and the flexibility to do what I want, when I want.
7. How can you talk to 3 extra people today that you normally wouldn’t?
Goto clothing stores, approach sexy ladies on the street, talk to a pan-handler
8. What is funny about all your problems?
In the past it wasn't really a problem when I look back. I created the problems.
9. What is really great about your sexuality?
I am exploring it and I am becoming more comfortable about it. I want to learn more about my sexuality.
10. What changes if you clearly see yourself being successful?
My actions, the way I walk, talk, my mood. I'm more positive. I have a jolt of excitement.
Low energy, chilled, relaxed
2. What is it time to stop doing?
Procastinating and put things into action.
3. What will absolutely motivate you to do take twice your normal daily amount of action today?
Money, women, food, clothes and a sexy body.
4. How will you feel when you smash your effort and results today?
Fucking awesome!
5. What needs to happen for you to have inner peace?
Time to myself to reflect, relax and gather my thoughts.
6. What will your life be like when you master your use of time?
I''ll have the freedom and the flexibility to do what I want, when I want.
7. How can you talk to 3 extra people today that you normally wouldn’t?
Goto clothing stores, approach sexy ladies on the street, talk to a pan-handler
8. What is funny about all your problems?
In the past it wasn't really a problem when I look back. I created the problems.
9. What is really great about your sexuality?
I am exploring it and I am becoming more comfortable about it. I want to learn more about my sexuality.
10. What changes if you clearly see yourself being successful?
My actions, the way I walk, talk, my mood. I'm more positive. I have a jolt of excitement.
All Stars Guillermo - Scores Breakdown
20/09/2010
40 - Take a solid action step towards my goal - Daygame
40 - Take a solid action step towards my goal - Attended Almog's talk
150 - Spend 30 uninterrupted minutes attempting to achieve your goal - Daygame
150 - Spend 30 uninterrupted minutes attempting to achieve your goal - Attended Almog's talk
40 - Take a solid action step towards my goal - Tantra practice
21/09/2010
40 - Take a solid action step towards my goal - Daygame
150 - Spend 30 uninterrupted minutes attempting to achieve your goal - Daygame
40 - Take a solid action step towards my goal - Tantra practice
22/09/2010
40 - Take a solid action step towards my goal - Daygame
150 - Spend 30 uninterrupted minutes attempting to achieve your goal - Daygame
40 - Take a solid action step towards my goal - Tantra practice
40 - Take a solid action step towards my goal - Daygame
40 - Take a solid action step towards my goal - Attended Almog's talk
150 - Spend 30 uninterrupted minutes attempting to achieve your goal - Daygame
150 - Spend 30 uninterrupted minutes attempting to achieve your goal - Attended Almog's talk
40 - Take a solid action step towards my goal - Tantra practice
21/09/2010
40 - Take a solid action step towards my goal - Daygame
150 - Spend 30 uninterrupted minutes attempting to achieve your goal - Daygame
40 - Take a solid action step towards my goal - Tantra practice
22/09/2010
40 - Take a solid action step towards my goal - Daygame
150 - Spend 30 uninterrupted minutes attempting to achieve your goal - Daygame
40 - Take a solid action step towards my goal - Tantra practice
Monday, September 20, 2010
Daily coaching Tuesday
1. What makes you angry in your life?
Uncertainty, lack of control, lack of freedom.
2. What stuff tends to put you in a mood?
Being tied down, not having the freedom to express myself.
3. How can you use that negativity to help you?
I can use negativity as an action trigger in order to achieve something positive.
4. What are you tolerating?
5. What is your current clean sweep score?
34
6. What could you do to increase your clean sweep score by 2 this week?
Put 10% of my money aside for savings
Write a financial plan
7. What is a trigger for being unproductive for you?
Fear, being upset
8. How could you become more consistent?
Set small goals for myself rather than making this huge goal.
9. How do you display your uniqueness generally?
The way I dress, my weird sense of humour, my acceptance of being introverted.
10. How can you improve your use of “touch” in social situations today?
Get closer, fast!
Uncertainty, lack of control, lack of freedom.
2. What stuff tends to put you in a mood?
Being tied down, not having the freedom to express myself.
3. How can you use that negativity to help you?
I can use negativity as an action trigger in order to achieve something positive.
4. What are you tolerating?
5. What is your current clean sweep score?
34
6. What could you do to increase your clean sweep score by 2 this week?
Put 10% of my money aside for savings
Write a financial plan
7. What is a trigger for being unproductive for you?
Fear, being upset
8. How could you become more consistent?
Set small goals for myself rather than making this huge goal.
9. How do you display your uniqueness generally?
The way I dress, my weird sense of humour, my acceptance of being introverted.
10. How can you improve your use of “touch” in social situations today?
Get closer, fast!
Sunday, September 19, 2010
Goals to reach in the next 90 days
I have kind of gone off the rails in the last few weeks and I am ready to get back on track. I'm starting fresh and I've redone my goals to add some juice.
Start Date Finish Date The Specific Measurable Goal Completed
20/09/2010 20/12/2010 1.To be able to confidently express myself sexually with women
20/09/2010 20/12/2010 4.To compete in a BJJ competition
20/09/2010 20/12/2010 8.To be more open about my fears and mental blockages
20/09/2010 20/12/2010 10.Create a strong presence in any situation
20/09/2010 20/12/2010 11.Create another avenue of passive income. Ebay business.
20/09/2010 20/12/2010 12.Infiltrate and build a new social circle consisting of sexy ladies
20/09/2010 20/12/2010 13.Have rolemodels and mentors influence me each day
20/09/2010 20/12/2010 14.Start an Image and Style blog
20/09/2010 20/12/2010 15.Organise a charity event
20/09/2010 20/12/2010 16.Achieve a full-body orgasm
20/09/2010 20/12/2010 7.Enjoy 10 dates with 10 different women
20/09/2010 20/12/2010 7.Have a financial plan to have my dream life within the next 5 years
Start Date Finish Date The Specific Measurable Goal Completed
20/09/2010 20/12/2010 1.To be able to confidently express myself sexually with women
20/09/2010 20/12/2010 4.To compete in a BJJ competition
20/09/2010 20/12/2010 8.To be more open about my fears and mental blockages
20/09/2010 20/12/2010 10.Create a strong presence in any situation
20/09/2010 20/12/2010 11.Create another avenue of passive income. Ebay business.
20/09/2010 20/12/2010 12.Infiltrate and build a new social circle consisting of sexy ladies
20/09/2010 20/12/2010 13.Have rolemodels and mentors influence me each day
20/09/2010 20/12/2010 14.Start an Image and Style blog
20/09/2010 20/12/2010 15.Organise a charity event
20/09/2010 20/12/2010 16.Achieve a full-body orgasm
20/09/2010 20/12/2010 7.Enjoy 10 dates with 10 different women
20/09/2010 20/12/2010 7.Have a financial plan to have my dream life within the next 5 years
Monday, September 6, 2010
Daygame 06/08/2010: Melbourne CBD
Only one approach today. I wasn't feeling nervous or anything but for some reason I couldn't get myself to approach. There was a gorgeous redhead I let walk past me and told myself she's too far away now. I know this is bullshit as I've run after girls from more than 50 metres away. I can't really argue with the quality out there today, I was just in my head more than I am usually.
Anyway the woman I spoke to was a gorgeous brunette wearing glasses and corporate attire. Very sexy. I stopped at the traffic lights to cross the road and I noticed her in my peripheral. We both cross the road and I stop her beside me and open direct.
I felt she responded warmly but she was quick to mention she had a boyfriend. I roll with it and continue talking with her for a bit before letting her go.
I felt that I wasn't able to keep the conversation flowing. I think looking back I was thinking more about what I was going to say next.
Something I've picked up on reading on some of my last posts is that I have not been demonstrating intent in my interactions recently. While I don't feel it's always necessary in daygame I do feel I need to put it out there.
Validating my belief that I'm OK as I am
As mentioned in one of my previous posts I mentioned that I feel I am coming full circle. Growing up, I was a weird, creepy, quiet and introverted. I feel I have come back to being that same guy but I am more accepting of him. I have the belief that women find me attractive as I am which is funny as growing up I felt I was an easy target for bullying for being the way I was. It made me feel bad about myself and made me become someone I wasn't to get acceptance from others.
I got this text while I was working Saturday night:
L: Hey this is that poor blonde girl u harassed on the street last night. Thought u may like my number :)
Me: hey L. its not harassment if its in front of my house :)
L: Ah good reply
Monday afternoon:
Me: something i forgot to tell you the other day :)
L: And what was that?lol
Me: i lurrrve cake :)
L: Ok that's random...lol. why do you 'lurrrve' cake?
Me: why not? :P
L: Haha.well I'm still rather flummoxed at your comment...is this how guys chat to girls these days?haha
Me: no. just me :)
L: Well aren't u a strange one?I like ;)
A number of times recently I've had girls call me strange or weird but I still feel like they enjoy talking to me. These experiences have helped me to validate that I'm OK as I am. I think in my case women were right when they said "just be yourself".
Anyway the woman I spoke to was a gorgeous brunette wearing glasses and corporate attire. Very sexy. I stopped at the traffic lights to cross the road and I noticed her in my peripheral. We both cross the road and I stop her beside me and open direct.
I felt she responded warmly but she was quick to mention she had a boyfriend. I roll with it and continue talking with her for a bit before letting her go.
I felt that I wasn't able to keep the conversation flowing. I think looking back I was thinking more about what I was going to say next.
Something I've picked up on reading on some of my last posts is that I have not been demonstrating intent in my interactions recently. While I don't feel it's always necessary in daygame I do feel I need to put it out there.
Validating my belief that I'm OK as I am
As mentioned in one of my previous posts I mentioned that I feel I am coming full circle. Growing up, I was a weird, creepy, quiet and introverted. I feel I have come back to being that same guy but I am more accepting of him. I have the belief that women find me attractive as I am which is funny as growing up I felt I was an easy target for bullying for being the way I was. It made me feel bad about myself and made me become someone I wasn't to get acceptance from others.
I got this text while I was working Saturday night:
L: Hey this is that poor blonde girl u harassed on the street last night. Thought u may like my number :)
Me: hey L. its not harassment if its in front of my house :)
L: Ah good reply
Monday afternoon:
Me: something i forgot to tell you the other day :)
L: And what was that?lol
Me: i lurrrve cake :)
L: Ok that's random...lol. why do you 'lurrrve' cake?
Me: why not? :P
L: Haha.well I'm still rather flummoxed at your comment...is this how guys chat to girls these days?haha
Me: no. just me :)
L: Well aren't u a strange one?I like ;)
A number of times recently I've had girls call me strange or weird but I still feel like they enjoy talking to me. These experiences have helped me to validate that I'm OK as I am. I think in my case women were right when they said "just be yourself".
Sunday, September 5, 2010
Daygame 05/08/2010: Melbourne CBD
I woke up late this afternoon and got a text from Keith to see if I wanted to do some daygame. I happily agreed. I met up with him at the usual spot, Bourke St mall. I was feeling pretty good today. I didn't feel much in the way of anxiety. I felt today I approached relaxed and felt pretty calm when talking to women today. I think writing up on some of my reference experiences in the last couple of months has helped me appreciate how much I've grown.
In my field reports I've written mainly about the girls I do approach but I never talk about the girls I don't approach. I think for my development I will document as much as I can to help me become aware of what I am feeling and what mental blocks are stopping me from approaching.
Approach #1: Cute blonde in tight pants
Keith and I were walking in the GPO. As we approach the exit I see a cute blonde walking in. I let her walk past, spin around and open. I noticed she could see me in her peripheral so I opened from where I was following so that I wouldn't creep her out. She stopped and I locked eyes with her. She smiles.
"I know this is totally out of the blue but I just had to come talk to you because you're really beautiful."
I challenged her abit and though she was struggling she was trying to qualify herself to me. It seemed like I was creating too much pressure so I toned it down to something simpler and abit more playful. I felt we had a great vibe going. I went for the number but she said she had a boyfriend. I teased her on it for abit and we talked some more before letting her on her way.
Though this didn't go anywhere I felt that for a first approach it was pretty smooth. I felt I could have done a better job in relating to what she was saying. We got talking about fashion and I didn't follow up. I feel fashion is one of my master conversation topics and would have built deeper into a connection. I was happy that I could see I was creating pressure and I was able to release when it built up.
Keith and I were walking inside Melbourne Central and there was a two set walking right in front of us. One was wearing black skinny jeans and heels. As soon as I saw her I was making abit of a moan. I wanted her but yet I couldn't get myself to talk to her. The impulse was there to approach yet I was quick to stop myself for some reason.
Reminder to myself. I've done group sets before and have had fun interactions and have got numbers when I have done them.
Approach #2: Ralph Lauren girl
I was walking out of Myer and I spot a cute brunette texting on her phone. Even though I walked for abit after noticing her. I didn't feel any sense of anxiety. Kinda felt like I approached her because I was ready to not because I felt I had to.
I felt I was able to pace the interaction well and she seem relaxed with my company. Though the interaction was short, I felt the vibe between up was warm and friendly. She was quick to say she had a boyfriend so I threw in a tease. Even though she had a boyfriend we kept talking for abit before I let her go.
Possibly I could have pushed things abit more? Something to think about.
Approach #3: Cute brunette in long coat
I spot her walk past me and I walk after her. I freak her out a little and she speeds up. I try to get things going but it seems like a lost cause.
Approach #4: Sexy blonde
Keith, Peter and I are walking through Melbourne Central and I spot a gorgeous blonde sitting down in the food court. I walk up to her and say "Excuse me". She looks at me and smiles and says "how are you?"
"Very well thankyou. I thought you were really beautiful and I wanted to say hi".
Boom! She lights up. She must have asked me how I was 3-4 times. I noticed there was another bag with her and so she must be with a friend. I sit next to her and chat for abit. She's abit blown away by what I've just done and she says shes blushing which I thought was really cute. She asks me if I have done this before. I reply with "you're I think 3,628,002". I ask some qualifying questions and which she throws them back at me. I gladly answered and put it back on her.
Her sister comes along and I introduce myself. I ask the sister if she's cool. There's a good vibe between the three of us and I feel we were both enjoying each others company. Turns out she's from Sydney and is only here for another day. I tell her to give me her number so that next time she is in Melbourne we can hang out. She doesn't agree to so I say "it's cause I'm black isn't it?" which gets a laugh. We talk for abit more before I get up and go.
Even though I didn't get a number I felt we both made each others day which is why I enjoy daygame. I love meeting beautiful women and making them feel appreciated which seemed to be something I've moved away from in the last couple of months. Some may say today was a failure as I didn't get any numbers but today it was a success for me as I felt I was able to go in and make someones day.
I've had some pretty solid interactions in the past couple of days. I feel when I'm in tune with my emotional state and my internal/external awareness, I come across as genuine and I feel women open up to me.
In my field reports I've written mainly about the girls I do approach but I never talk about the girls I don't approach. I think for my development I will document as much as I can to help me become aware of what I am feeling and what mental blocks are stopping me from approaching.
Approach #1: Cute blonde in tight pants
Keith and I were walking in the GPO. As we approach the exit I see a cute blonde walking in. I let her walk past, spin around and open. I noticed she could see me in her peripheral so I opened from where I was following so that I wouldn't creep her out. She stopped and I locked eyes with her. She smiles.
"I know this is totally out of the blue but I just had to come talk to you because you're really beautiful."
I challenged her abit and though she was struggling she was trying to qualify herself to me. It seemed like I was creating too much pressure so I toned it down to something simpler and abit more playful. I felt we had a great vibe going. I went for the number but she said she had a boyfriend. I teased her on it for abit and we talked some more before letting her on her way.
Though this didn't go anywhere I felt that for a first approach it was pretty smooth. I felt I could have done a better job in relating to what she was saying. We got talking about fashion and I didn't follow up. I feel fashion is one of my master conversation topics and would have built deeper into a connection. I was happy that I could see I was creating pressure and I was able to release when it built up.
Keith and I were walking inside Melbourne Central and there was a two set walking right in front of us. One was wearing black skinny jeans and heels. As soon as I saw her I was making abit of a moan. I wanted her but yet I couldn't get myself to talk to her. The impulse was there to approach yet I was quick to stop myself for some reason.
Reminder to myself. I've done group sets before and have had fun interactions and have got numbers when I have done them.
Approach #2: Ralph Lauren girl
I was walking out of Myer and I spot a cute brunette texting on her phone. Even though I walked for abit after noticing her. I didn't feel any sense of anxiety. Kinda felt like I approached her because I was ready to not because I felt I had to.
I felt I was able to pace the interaction well and she seem relaxed with my company. Though the interaction was short, I felt the vibe between up was warm and friendly. She was quick to say she had a boyfriend so I threw in a tease. Even though she had a boyfriend we kept talking for abit before I let her go.
Possibly I could have pushed things abit more? Something to think about.
Approach #3: Cute brunette in long coat
I spot her walk past me and I walk after her. I freak her out a little and she speeds up. I try to get things going but it seems like a lost cause.
Approach #4: Sexy blonde
Keith, Peter and I are walking through Melbourne Central and I spot a gorgeous blonde sitting down in the food court. I walk up to her and say "Excuse me". She looks at me and smiles and says "how are you?"
"Very well thankyou. I thought you were really beautiful and I wanted to say hi".
Boom! She lights up. She must have asked me how I was 3-4 times. I noticed there was another bag with her and so she must be with a friend. I sit next to her and chat for abit. She's abit blown away by what I've just done and she says shes blushing which I thought was really cute. She asks me if I have done this before. I reply with "you're I think 3,628,002". I ask some qualifying questions and which she throws them back at me. I gladly answered and put it back on her.
Her sister comes along and I introduce myself. I ask the sister if she's cool. There's a good vibe between the three of us and I feel we were both enjoying each others company. Turns out she's from Sydney and is only here for another day. I tell her to give me her number so that next time she is in Melbourne we can hang out. She doesn't agree to so I say "it's cause I'm black isn't it?" which gets a laugh. We talk for abit more before I get up and go.
Even though I didn't get a number I felt we both made each others day which is why I enjoy daygame. I love meeting beautiful women and making them feel appreciated which seemed to be something I've moved away from in the last couple of months. Some may say today was a failure as I didn't get any numbers but today it was a success for me as I felt I was able to go in and make someones day.
I've had some pretty solid interactions in the past couple of days. I feel when I'm in tune with my emotional state and my internal/external awareness, I come across as genuine and I feel women open up to me.
Saturday, September 4, 2010
Almog's Conversation Workshop
I don't want to take anything away from the other companies who have helped me in my journey as they have served a major role in my development as a person but I have to say Almog's conversation workshop was the best workshop I have done all year.
I feel Almog's teaching style and philosophies really tie in well with my style of game and what I value and believe in. What makes Almog's style of teaching different is that his style is more focused towards building a connection based on your own natural appreciation and curiosity for a woman.
For the last couple of months I have been focusing alot on being more sexual and flirty and as a result pulled me away from what I do best. Building connections with women. I felt that when I was interacting with women I felt they weren't seeing me for who I really was and as a result I was putting myself through a bout of self-sabbotage and I wasn't aware I was doing it.
Almog was able to demonstrate that you don't need to be this sexual and flirty guy to be able to build attraction. Flirting only serves to create an emotional spike opening a window of opportunity.
There were alot of technical concepts to grasp and exercises to get through which fried my brain over the weekend but it was well worth it. To me it wasn't much of a conversation workshop but more an inner game workshop. I felt that a lot of my conversational sticking points pointed out internal blockages.
When Almog is teaching you can tell he genuinely cares about seeing you improve. The value from this workshop goes way beyond this weekend. I will carry what I learned for the rest of my life. By the end of the workshop, though I was exhausted, I didn't want it to end. I felt that there was more that I could learn.
What made the weekend even more special was that I was able to share this experience the workshop with three awesome guys who I consider my friends. While this is an amazing workshop for those who get the opportunity to do it, I feel this isn't for beginners. It requires you to have a lot of approaches under your belt as well as an understanding of what kind of woman you are looking for.
I feel Almog's teaching style and philosophies really tie in well with my style of game and what I value and believe in. What makes Almog's style of teaching different is that his style is more focused towards building a connection based on your own natural appreciation and curiosity for a woman.
For the last couple of months I have been focusing alot on being more sexual and flirty and as a result pulled me away from what I do best. Building connections with women. I felt that when I was interacting with women I felt they weren't seeing me for who I really was and as a result I was putting myself through a bout of self-sabbotage and I wasn't aware I was doing it.
Almog was able to demonstrate that you don't need to be this sexual and flirty guy to be able to build attraction. Flirting only serves to create an emotional spike opening a window of opportunity.
There were alot of technical concepts to grasp and exercises to get through which fried my brain over the weekend but it was well worth it. To me it wasn't much of a conversation workshop but more an inner game workshop. I felt that a lot of my conversational sticking points pointed out internal blockages.
When Almog is teaching you can tell he genuinely cares about seeing you improve. The value from this workshop goes way beyond this weekend. I will carry what I learned for the rest of my life. By the end of the workshop, though I was exhausted, I didn't want it to end. I felt that there was more that I could learn.
What made the weekend even more special was that I was able to share this experience the workshop with three awesome guys who I consider my friends. While this is an amazing workshop for those who get the opportunity to do it, I feel this isn't for beginners. It requires you to have a lot of approaches under your belt as well as an understanding of what kind of woman you are looking for.
Thoughts, realisations, reference experiences...
The last few months have been a rollercoaster for me. There have been times of hopes and times of fear and uncertainty. But as a result of these times I have smashed some limiting beliefs and I have created some reference experiences and realisations which will only serve me for the better.
Junkie Chic
I was out with Matt (wanderer) a few days ago. I was walking to the supermarket to get some groceries. I was wearing boardshorts, a nike tracktop and thongs. Most of you who I've done daygame with me will know I am always conscious of how I dress. I feel image is my external gateway to my internal world. I feel the way I dress needs to project the image of who I am on the inside. In this example I felt like a junkie.
As we were walking to the supermarket, in front of us was a sexy redhead in a corporate outfit. Now I didn't approach her but while Matt and I were picking out stuff in the supermarket I mentioned that I've just come across a limiting belief and told him about the redhead. I decided on the way back to my place I'm going to talk to the next cute girl I see.
Matt and I saw a cute brunette as we were walking back. She walked past us and I turned around and walked after her. She stopped at the traffic lights. As I walk towards her, the battle begins with me and my internal dialogue. The voices in my head saying "I look like a junkie, she wouldn't give me the time of day" or "my hands are sweaty it'll be weird". After convincing myself not to approach I yell to Matt further down the street "I CAN'T DO IT. IT'S TOO HARD!!!".
I catch up to Matt and as we get close to my apartment I see a cute brunette in a gym outfit. After abit of hesitation I say "this is bullshit" and walk after her. I open direct and we get a good interaction going and I managed to get her number. She texted me later that night saying she has a boyfriend which sucks but it opened me to the possibility that I could be attractive to women dressed like a junkie.
Magic can happen in front of your doorstep
There have been many beautiful women past my doorstep since I have moved into the city and yet I can't get myself to talk to them. It's like some weird social construct shit fucking with me.
Anyway, last night I walk down to the doorstep to greet Matt only to find he wasn't there. I was in the apartment earlier and my roommate Daryl said he was downstairs. I call him up to find out where he is. He's at the casino but while I was on the phone I spot a sexy blonde walk past. Double take... Triple take... Quadruple take... Oh fuck it! I ran after her and opened direct. She was incredibly beautiful and very sweet. We got along well and exchanged details.
I like that in moving into the city I am somewhat integrating daygame with my lifestyle. Beats travelling to and from the city from Noble Park to stroll around the city for hours.
Beautiful women want to meet guys like me
On my journey I have talked to models and have taken some of them out on dates. Now I haven't got lucky yet but being around these girls has allowed me to be comfortable with them and see them for who they really are. They are human beings like us. They have their share of fears and insecurities, they do hook up with normal guys, not all of them are the ditzy party girls you see in clubs and are actually interested in having a normal conversation, they have amazing life experiences to share, and they love mi goreng :)
These models I talk about were the type of women I would only dream of talking to a year ago. I thought you had to be rich and good looking to get a girl like that and I would have to settle for some boring and shallow Asian girl. While I may not have a woman like this in my life now, I do believe I deserve a girl like this and I believe I will have women like this in my life.
I am OK as I am...or who I was before I got into all of this
The past few months I had issues with being comfortable in expressing my sexuality. In an effort to try to be more sexual I felt I had to be this flirty and cheeky guy as a result of watching and learning from guys who I respect and who I value their advice. Though I see the intent behind being flirty and cheeky, this is not my style and does not fit with my personality. I love connecting with women and in recent times I have moved away from this in an effort to be more sexual. As a result I was creeping out the type of women I am into and drawing in those that I am not.
I realise you don't have to be cheeky and flirty to be sexual. It only serves as a way of creating an emotional spike or window of opportunity (Credit: Almog). In the past couple of months I have worked hard on my subcommunications and feel I can project myself sexually though my body language and microexpressions.
I feel I have come full circle in the past year. I came into the community feeling I need to develop my conversation skills, learn lines, be more sexual, be this super excited high energy guy, etc. In the last couple of months I find myself feeling the need to be stripping layers away and now I am going back to the person I was before. Only this time I am more accepting of that person. That's not to say all the money I have spent on workshops and bootcamps were a waste. If it wasn't for these workshops, creeping out and being blown out by numerous women I wouldn't have come to the place I see myself in now.
Microexpressions
I wouldn't call this a major breakthrough just yet but it shows how much more aware I am becoming when I am interacting with someone. A girl I am seeing at the moment has quite the pokerface and has amazing array of microexpressions which I think I wouldn't have been able to pick up on if I was in my own head. I find alot of women give these off all the time and I am starting to notice it alot more.
For myself I have quite the pokerface myself and I am learning to use it to my advantage. For example, I find that smiling when a woman has earned it creates a bigger emotional spike than when I am being high energy, smiling and laughing all the time. In being high energy I have to maintain that energy to go higher and I feel I am getting too old for that shit.
I also find that my facial expressions can be ambiguous as well which can be helpful in qualifying, building tension and also helping me get out of troublesome situations. I don't quite have a handle of it yet and may...or should I say will creep out girls but I feel the rewards will be amazing.
Reading material only serves its purpose if you have reference experiences to attach to it
Most of what I have learnt in pickup has been through workshops and being infield. I have only read material which was recommended by those I respect and whose advice I value. I mention this as I have read a few spirituality books like Eckhart Tolle's "The Power of Now" and "A New Earth". Now while these books to some degree have helped me become more aware of consciousness, I feel there are some who try to conceptualise and try to create meaning to alot of Eckhart's teachings rather than linking his teachings to their own life experiences. I feel this leaves people thinking they just have to be "present" and "uneffected" which leaves them dormant and still contained by fear. I would like to see how "present" or "uneffected" Eckhart Tolle would be if he were asked to hit on a sexy blonde in a mini-skirt and heels.
Where I'm getting at is there is alot of content rich pickup material out there and while I'm sure they will add value in one way or another, I feel I will be better off meeting women. Techniques are only worth learning if they're going to be applied. Anything else is just going to serve as wasted headspace.
Escalation is attractive... If you're not escalating you're gay (Tim)
Following on from what I just mentioned about reading pick-up material. It has served it's purpose as I have applied the concepts taken from the book "Escalation is Attractive". I have tried and failed many times before reading this book. What this has done is allow me to link past experiences to concepts presented in the book. Also in putting the concepts into practice it has only served to link more reference experiences to the concepts presented in the book which in turn has allowed me to effectively internalise what I have learned.
Last night I was at Tangerine with Keith and there was only one girl worth approaching last night. An incredibly stunning, tall blonde in a red dress and heels (I'm sure most of you are sick of hearing what my type is now). She came into my proximity so I lightly bumped her, locked eyes, pulled her in close and asked "what's your name?" We got close and physical for abit before...a friend? came along. Now while I didn't get anywhere with her it provides me with a reference experience along with hundreds of others that beautiful women like this enjoy my presence and want to be with me.
I envision my game being predominantly direct, physical but with a touch of smoothness. Reference experiences like the one above only serve to validate that.
It's all inner game
It's what makes me get out of bed in the morning, it's what makes me want to travel for over an hour to goto work, it's what triggers me to make the changes that I am making in my life right now, it's what made me want to start pick-up in the first place, it's what made me want to continue talking to girls even after being rejected by hundreds of girls before them, it's what allows me to question my beliefs and values to see how strong they are...I could go on forever.
I feel I have a solid technical foundation as far as seduction goes and the only thing holding me back is my bullshit beliefs created by conditioning by parents, society, media, religion, etc. I have spent alot of time focusing more on my beliefs and removing negative anchors from my life which have stopped me from becoming the man I deserve to be (moving out of home, culling friends who put me down, being less of a yes man and prepared to say no more often if it's at the expense of my own well being).
Downtime between approaches
When I first started there were plenty of nights where I would go out whether it was with friends or alone where I would freak out. I felt the pressure to approach as many sets as a I could and if I wasn't in set I would be thinking "oh shit, I have to talk to girls!" or "oh fuck! I'm low value" creating a flush of negative thoughts and unnecessary pressure on myself. I determined how good a night was by how many approaches I did that night. I'll read on how someone did 50 approaches and I would beat myself up for not being able to do as much.
When I go out at night I find myself being more selective. I am alot more patient in approaching girls. When I am not in set I shut myself off and focus more on my breathing and internal/external awareness. This for me has been very powerful during daygame where there is alot of downtime between sets. Less often these days do I find myself doing laps around the city for hours and hours without doing a single approach. While I have been struggling in approaching at night in recent times, I don't beat myself up for it and just see it as another night. I have learned to use the time I'm not in set as a valuable learning tool so I never go home entirely empty handed :)
Areas of focus for the next couple of months
- Going back to what I do best. Connect with women.
- Projecting intent.
- Isolation. I don't do it enough.
- Go back to doing at least 5 cold approaches every time I go out at night. It used to be a personal rule for me everytime I went out at night but got to the point where I was doing 5 automatically so I forgot about it.
- Group approaches. Ever since I have weeded out routines I find myself struggling to approach groups which is retarded.
- Awareness and intuition.
- Extraction. I moved into the city for a reason!
Junkie Chic
I was out with Matt (wanderer) a few days ago. I was walking to the supermarket to get some groceries. I was wearing boardshorts, a nike tracktop and thongs. Most of you who I've done daygame with me will know I am always conscious of how I dress. I feel image is my external gateway to my internal world. I feel the way I dress needs to project the image of who I am on the inside. In this example I felt like a junkie.
As we were walking to the supermarket, in front of us was a sexy redhead in a corporate outfit. Now I didn't approach her but while Matt and I were picking out stuff in the supermarket I mentioned that I've just come across a limiting belief and told him about the redhead. I decided on the way back to my place I'm going to talk to the next cute girl I see.
Matt and I saw a cute brunette as we were walking back. She walked past us and I turned around and walked after her. She stopped at the traffic lights. As I walk towards her, the battle begins with me and my internal dialogue. The voices in my head saying "I look like a junkie, she wouldn't give me the time of day" or "my hands are sweaty it'll be weird". After convincing myself not to approach I yell to Matt further down the street "I CAN'T DO IT. IT'S TOO HARD!!!".
I catch up to Matt and as we get close to my apartment I see a cute brunette in a gym outfit. After abit of hesitation I say "this is bullshit" and walk after her. I open direct and we get a good interaction going and I managed to get her number. She texted me later that night saying she has a boyfriend which sucks but it opened me to the possibility that I could be attractive to women dressed like a junkie.
Magic can happen in front of your doorstep
There have been many beautiful women past my doorstep since I have moved into the city and yet I can't get myself to talk to them. It's like some weird social construct shit fucking with me.
Anyway, last night I walk down to the doorstep to greet Matt only to find he wasn't there. I was in the apartment earlier and my roommate Daryl said he was downstairs. I call him up to find out where he is. He's at the casino but while I was on the phone I spot a sexy blonde walk past. Double take... Triple take... Quadruple take... Oh fuck it! I ran after her and opened direct. She was incredibly beautiful and very sweet. We got along well and exchanged details.
I like that in moving into the city I am somewhat integrating daygame with my lifestyle. Beats travelling to and from the city from Noble Park to stroll around the city for hours.
Beautiful women want to meet guys like me
On my journey I have talked to models and have taken some of them out on dates. Now I haven't got lucky yet but being around these girls has allowed me to be comfortable with them and see them for who they really are. They are human beings like us. They have their share of fears and insecurities, they do hook up with normal guys, not all of them are the ditzy party girls you see in clubs and are actually interested in having a normal conversation, they have amazing life experiences to share, and they love mi goreng :)
These models I talk about were the type of women I would only dream of talking to a year ago. I thought you had to be rich and good looking to get a girl like that and I would have to settle for some boring and shallow Asian girl. While I may not have a woman like this in my life now, I do believe I deserve a girl like this and I believe I will have women like this in my life.
I am OK as I am...or who I was before I got into all of this
The past few months I had issues with being comfortable in expressing my sexuality. In an effort to try to be more sexual I felt I had to be this flirty and cheeky guy as a result of watching and learning from guys who I respect and who I value their advice. Though I see the intent behind being flirty and cheeky, this is not my style and does not fit with my personality. I love connecting with women and in recent times I have moved away from this in an effort to be more sexual. As a result I was creeping out the type of women I am into and drawing in those that I am not.
I realise you don't have to be cheeky and flirty to be sexual. It only serves as a way of creating an emotional spike or window of opportunity (Credit: Almog). In the past couple of months I have worked hard on my subcommunications and feel I can project myself sexually though my body language and microexpressions.
I feel I have come full circle in the past year. I came into the community feeling I need to develop my conversation skills, learn lines, be more sexual, be this super excited high energy guy, etc. In the last couple of months I find myself feeling the need to be stripping layers away and now I am going back to the person I was before. Only this time I am more accepting of that person. That's not to say all the money I have spent on workshops and bootcamps were a waste. If it wasn't for these workshops, creeping out and being blown out by numerous women I wouldn't have come to the place I see myself in now.
Microexpressions
I wouldn't call this a major breakthrough just yet but it shows how much more aware I am becoming when I am interacting with someone. A girl I am seeing at the moment has quite the pokerface and has amazing array of microexpressions which I think I wouldn't have been able to pick up on if I was in my own head. I find alot of women give these off all the time and I am starting to notice it alot more.
For myself I have quite the pokerface myself and I am learning to use it to my advantage. For example, I find that smiling when a woman has earned it creates a bigger emotional spike than when I am being high energy, smiling and laughing all the time. In being high energy I have to maintain that energy to go higher and I feel I am getting too old for that shit.
I also find that my facial expressions can be ambiguous as well which can be helpful in qualifying, building tension and also helping me get out of troublesome situations. I don't quite have a handle of it yet and may...or should I say will creep out girls but I feel the rewards will be amazing.
Reading material only serves its purpose if you have reference experiences to attach to it
Most of what I have learnt in pickup has been through workshops and being infield. I have only read material which was recommended by those I respect and whose advice I value. I mention this as I have read a few spirituality books like Eckhart Tolle's "The Power of Now" and "A New Earth". Now while these books to some degree have helped me become more aware of consciousness, I feel there are some who try to conceptualise and try to create meaning to alot of Eckhart's teachings rather than linking his teachings to their own life experiences. I feel this leaves people thinking they just have to be "present" and "uneffected" which leaves them dormant and still contained by fear. I would like to see how "present" or "uneffected" Eckhart Tolle would be if he were asked to hit on a sexy blonde in a mini-skirt and heels.
Where I'm getting at is there is alot of content rich pickup material out there and while I'm sure they will add value in one way or another, I feel I will be better off meeting women. Techniques are only worth learning if they're going to be applied. Anything else is just going to serve as wasted headspace.
Escalation is attractive... If you're not escalating you're gay (Tim)
Following on from what I just mentioned about reading pick-up material. It has served it's purpose as I have applied the concepts taken from the book "Escalation is Attractive". I have tried and failed many times before reading this book. What this has done is allow me to link past experiences to concepts presented in the book. Also in putting the concepts into practice it has only served to link more reference experiences to the concepts presented in the book which in turn has allowed me to effectively internalise what I have learned.
Last night I was at Tangerine with Keith and there was only one girl worth approaching last night. An incredibly stunning, tall blonde in a red dress and heels (I'm sure most of you are sick of hearing what my type is now). She came into my proximity so I lightly bumped her, locked eyes, pulled her in close and asked "what's your name?" We got close and physical for abit before...a friend? came along. Now while I didn't get anywhere with her it provides me with a reference experience along with hundreds of others that beautiful women like this enjoy my presence and want to be with me.
I envision my game being predominantly direct, physical but with a touch of smoothness. Reference experiences like the one above only serve to validate that.
It's all inner game
It's what makes me get out of bed in the morning, it's what makes me want to travel for over an hour to goto work, it's what triggers me to make the changes that I am making in my life right now, it's what made me want to start pick-up in the first place, it's what made me want to continue talking to girls even after being rejected by hundreds of girls before them, it's what allows me to question my beliefs and values to see how strong they are...I could go on forever.
I feel I have a solid technical foundation as far as seduction goes and the only thing holding me back is my bullshit beliefs created by conditioning by parents, society, media, religion, etc. I have spent alot of time focusing more on my beliefs and removing negative anchors from my life which have stopped me from becoming the man I deserve to be (moving out of home, culling friends who put me down, being less of a yes man and prepared to say no more often if it's at the expense of my own well being).
Downtime between approaches
When I first started there were plenty of nights where I would go out whether it was with friends or alone where I would freak out. I felt the pressure to approach as many sets as a I could and if I wasn't in set I would be thinking "oh shit, I have to talk to girls!" or "oh fuck! I'm low value" creating a flush of negative thoughts and unnecessary pressure on myself. I determined how good a night was by how many approaches I did that night. I'll read on how someone did 50 approaches and I would beat myself up for not being able to do as much.
When I go out at night I find myself being more selective. I am alot more patient in approaching girls. When I am not in set I shut myself off and focus more on my breathing and internal/external awareness. This for me has been very powerful during daygame where there is alot of downtime between sets. Less often these days do I find myself doing laps around the city for hours and hours without doing a single approach. While I have been struggling in approaching at night in recent times, I don't beat myself up for it and just see it as another night. I have learned to use the time I'm not in set as a valuable learning tool so I never go home entirely empty handed :)
Areas of focus for the next couple of months
- Going back to what I do best. Connect with women.
- Projecting intent.
- Isolation. I don't do it enough.
- Go back to doing at least 5 cold approaches every time I go out at night. It used to be a personal rule for me everytime I went out at night but got to the point where I was doing 5 automatically so I forgot about it.
- Group approaches. Ever since I have weeded out routines I find myself struggling to approach groups which is retarded.
- Awareness and intuition.
- Extraction. I moved into the city for a reason!
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